I always notice people reassessing their principles once they become parents, was it the case for you?
I used to have rather strong opinions on parents who sit on the playground with their phones out.
Nowadays, I don’t bring the kids to a playground to play with them - I bring them so they can play with other children.
We talk and play more than enough in all those situations where there’s no other kids around.
Not mine, but my parents. They grew up in the 60’s and wanted to raise their children according to the principles of anti-authoritarian parenting.
(Basically, treat the children as small adults whose opinions are as important as your own. Don’t use any type of force and don’t use your authority to make them do things)
It was a big thing with politically left and green people in Germany)Well, my brother is on the autistic spectrum and needed a firm structure, so he screamed and screamed until they locked him in the basement because they literally didn’t know what else to do. He calmed down immediately and they changed their parenting style after that.
Very interesting, thanks for sharing!
I still just have 6 month olds, but had some grand ideas about nutrition and no junk food that I can already tell are gonna get relaxed.
Setting them up to understand how to navigate in a world filled with junk food by easily making filling, nutritious food in a fun way goes a lot farther than just abstinence, anyways.
Agreed. I have 3 kids. My wife and I thought we’d raise them on only “healthy” food, but that didn’t stick around too long. Now, we try to prepare healthy food so it’s tasty and they’ll eat it. Instead of flat-out banning junk, or making it seem “evil,” we stress that things like soda, candy, and ice cream are indeed delicious, but having too much without also eating healthy will affect how you feel and grow. They still like junk, but they’re surprisingly good at self-regulating.
I honestly can’t think of anything. I have always loved my parents, but they fucked up in a lot of ways that I have done everything in my power to not repeat. And when I do find myself doing something they would have done in a similar situation, I stop and apologize.
My parents were pretty good so not much really.
There is a bit more of “because that’s what we’re doing now” than I expected.
New parent here. I used to think that if your kid was crying you were doing something wrong. I discovered that babies just cry. That’s the only way they can communicate, so it happens all the time. And there are different types of cry and not all of them are fixable. So now my baby at times cries in public.
Definitely I used to judge when I heard kids scream during shopping. Now as a parent of young kids I know exactly what that’s like. It’s not uncommon to have to take a time out in the cleaning supplies aisle while they cool down.
Also I hate the toys in the grocery store.
“I’ll never stop loving the cat as much as I do now.”
I still love the cat, but in a very different way after becoming a dad.
