• Onno (VK6FLAB)@lemmy.radio
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    3 months ago

    For anyone reading this.

    From personal experience, have a shower daily, go for a walk, even if it’s only to the end of your garden or street and drink plenty of water. Sleep if you need to.

    This won’t fix things, but it will give you an opportunity to give yourself a break.

    In my experience, beating yourself up about everything you suck at is the single biggest thing that made it worse for me.

    Finally, talk to someone, anyone. In the street, at the bus, at work, friends, family, online, anyone.

    This too will pass.

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    3 months ago

    There is a book called “Tiny Habits” by BJ Fogg. He invented most of the techniques companies like Meta use to manipulate you and me.

    In the book, he explains how to use the same techniques to control your own behavior.

    I personally am in much better physical and mental state since I read it.

    You cannot beat yourself up until you improve. It does not work. It is a myth.

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      3 months ago

      I can’t focus enough to read a book and of I try hard enough I fall asleep after page two. Guess it’s not for me.

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        3 months ago

        Great! You just found your way to fall asleep instantly! Use it to get some more sleep in general :p

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            If you live in the states, Libby is a lifesaver. It’s an online audiobook thing for libraries. You can use your library card to check out audiobooks through the app. And if you’re unable to use Libby for some reason, I’ve heard mobilism has a lot of audiobooks for free

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              Yes. I tell anyone I can at work about the public library and how you can use Libby or Hoopla to get free books. Some audio books for those not wanting to read. It is a great asset.

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                https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uTawbZA7odY

                Yarrr, I mean really not, but it’s free

                Whoops that’s just an interview with the author, though may be useful to some, I shall keep looking.

                Audiobooks.com has a 30 day free trial, and this is one of the books they have, but still not good enough…

                Bookey.com also has a free trial and this audiobook. I’m failing here as a pirate. Unfortunately, I haven’t pirated any audiobooks so I don’t know where to look

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        3 months ago

        Try speed reading. Like faster than is comfortable. I was the same way til I realized my casual reading pace is too slow to keep me interested. I still struggle to get interested but once I am, zooooom

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          I have been reading out loud to myself for a few years.

          It is slower, but it really adds to your active vocabulary. And actually my reading articulation out loud has increased manifold. And it keeps my interest.

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          Being interested is not my problem, the more I want to read something the harder it is to not drift in my mind and have to restart a few lines before. And after a few pages I just start to nod and fall asleep. It’s hard to describe. The worst is even if I power through a book I can’t remember it the next day. Some events might bring back part of the story in my mind but it’s never enough to even make a quote. It’s the same for movies although I dont fall asleep I can’t remember it the next day. I hate that, and it’s not like I have no memory at all I will remember stupid shit other did or where they left stuff etc but the more I need or want to remember something the more I risk forgetting.

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            Yeah, that’s what I’m talking about. It’s harder to drift if you can fully saturate your thoughts with the book. The moments where your brain already understands where a sentence is going, that’s when it gets bored and starts thinking of something else while your reading speed catches up. This made a huge difference for me and counterintuitively it significantly improved my reading comprehension and reduced those moments of getting to the bottom of the page, not knowing what you just read. It’s like a disconnect between reading the words and processing them. It also just makes it less tedious to reread a section, since you’re blasting through it so much faster. Seriously, give it a shot.

            There’s speed reading apps that will flash the words at a faster pace so you have to keep up. Just bump up the speed til it’s a little uncomfortable.

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      3 months ago

      Here is a large language model generated summary:

      Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything” by BJ Fogg explores how small behavioral changes can lead to significant transformations in one’s life. Fogg, a behavior scientist, introduces a method for creating lasting habits by making them tiny and easy to accomplish.

      Key Points:

      1. Behavior Model:

        • B = MAP: Behavior (B) happens when Motivation (M), Ability (A), and a Prompt (P) converge at the same moment. To change behavior, adjust these three elements.
      2. Tiny Habit Recipe:

        • Identify a tiny behavior you want to incorporate into your routine.
        • Attach this new behavior to an existing routine (Anchor).
        • Celebrate immediately after doing the behavior to create positive reinforcement.
      3. Focus on Small Changes:

        • Instead of making drastic changes, Fogg advocates for starting with tiny, manageable actions. Over time, these small actions accumulate and lead to significant changes.
      4. Celebration:

        • A crucial part of the Tiny Habits method is celebrating your success, no matter how small. This positive reinforcement encourages repetition and helps solidify the new habit.
      5. Ability and Simplicity:

        • Simplifying the desired behavior increases the likelihood of success. If something feels too difficult, break it down into even smaller steps.
      6. Motivation:

        • While motivation can fluctuate, designing tiny habits that fit easily into your routine helps ensure consistency, regardless of your motivation levels.
      7. Behavior Design:

        • Fogg provides a systematic approach to designing behaviors that stick, emphasizing experimentation and iteration to find what works best for the individual.

      By focusing on tiny, achievable changes and celebrating small wins, Fogg’s method aims to make habit formation easier and more sustainable.

    • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
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      Is the book and its methods intended for neurodivergent people? If not, it is important to be aware that it may have limited use to people with ADHD as our dopamine signaling in the executive function parts of our prefrontal cortex is all kinds of fucked.

      That said, I’m ecstatic to read that you found it helpful and really appreciate your correct characterization of one of the maladaptive coping mechanisms that we often try to use.

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        I think when it comes to exploitation by corporate interest, having ADHD makes you 10x more vulnerable.

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        I hope so. I read atomic habits and it fed into my delusions of grandeur but nothing stuck. I don’t think it was written for us

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    3 months ago

    Had about a month of this but this week the switch has flipped and I’m trying to complete a months worth of stuff in a day.

    This will of course end in tears and frustration and the cycle will begin again.

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    3 months ago

    You mean like having movers coming in a few weeks but not getting off my ass for the past five days to start putting my life into boxes to move halfway across the country? Cuz it feels like you might be referring to my having movers coming in a few weeks but me not getting off my ass for the past five days to start putting my life into boxes to move halfway across the country.

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      Don’t worry, you’ll knock it all out in a single day literally hours before they arrive.

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    3 months ago

    Posture. I know my posture is bad and remind myself to straighten up…ten seconds later I’m slouched on an elbow.

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    Does that only happens to people with ADHD? Because the post is literally me and I’ve never asked to a doctor about this.

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      A lot of symptoms of ADHD happen to the general population as well, but in people with ADHD they may happen at such frequency and/or intensity that they become debilitating in the current system.

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        For the last 2 months I started to consider about going to a doctor because I cannot know if my inability to keep doing tasks or focus on them is because of the enviroment at my home is being harmful to my mind health or if I could have ADHD or similar. Maybe it’s the moment to do it, but it doesn’t feel confortable for me to ask a doctor.

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        Right? It’s like COVID laid bare all the injustices and bullshit of our society and social structures and all but destroyed any motivation to accomplish anything that I had. Things just seemed pointless cause the old myths are fucking lies and I’m tired of killing myself for others during the prime years of my life.

        What do you do when your apathy is due, in part, to the world being a cesspool where a few have the most? It really sucks.

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    Me all the time, but after getting medicated it’s a little less overwhelming and I can better calm down about it and slowly chew through the lists of stuff that needs to be done… Slowly… But any progress is better than no progress at all so I’ll take it as a massive win.

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    No I don’t. And when I think of those things they are considered negative. Despite my own thoughts never feeling normal or normative. Despite the fact that I never have a societal norm that keeps me going… I instead find my own norm and keep going… it’s weird I never seek to pull society down I try to move up…

    I don’t really agree with this post, but I’m trying to move forward so who knows…