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I haven’t made new pieces yet, but I’ve had similar thoughts. I started with mending and altering current pieces, both masc and femme clothes, to fit my body better. That’s helped with learning differences between their construction.

I’d been out of doing that for a while but meaning to get back into it, now that I’m done with moving stress and seem to be at my new baseline fat distribution post being on progesterone.

If I find any resources in returning to that, I’ll try to post. Would love to see what others have come across.

Specifically, I would love to make/find boy shorts style underwear with just enough room to fit myself comfortably without being too bulgy. (I prefer to not tuck)

Love how he is often able to push on the way autism is viewed.

I live my life mired in nuance. So much is in the realm of “not enough data to reach a conclusion” and so many people act as though it’s a matter of fact. And yet my thinking is considered wrong for not accepting extrapolations of incomplete data that feels unjustified by “this is how it works”.

Much like in this example: yes the DSM states black and white thinking is a problem for autistic people, while also being biased to not diagnosing people that lack this issue.

Feels ironic that the mental health field often gets hung up treating people as a member of category rather than individuals with room to be exceptional from the accepted mode of thinking for the category.

Completely understand this. Have been here myself.

I personally struggled identifying with the trans label until I was on HRT for 3 months and realized that I couldn’t go back to how my brain worked without estrogen. And I fully support that medical transition is not necessary to be trans. So I know it’s not easy.

Trans doesn’t have to mean the “opposite” side of the binary.

I would suggest looking into resources breaking down the binary gender model, seeing if any experiences of folks in the myriad of non-binary identities resonates with you, and even considering if a label is all that important to you. To me, I don’t think should matter so much, and just use the term agender as the closest approximation.

There will be people that will try to gatekeep transness, but what matters is you’ve gone through the work of what you feel is your role in society vs what is the norm. You do that, and you will find plenty will accept it. Try things out, and if you learn that you’re cis, I think the experience of questioning gender will still make a huge positive change.

TLDR; the non-monogomous community has a generally lower tolerance for the toxic social norms common among cis-het men. A man that finds himself impatient with his success in dating might consider that it makes sense for non-men to be cautious of all men, and he might need to do the work to recognize he might be the one that needs to learn what others expect of him to be found attractive.

As an enby trans person, it was checking in my early teens for surgery scars of sex determination assuming that I had been intersex and that my parents chose a gender and being disappointed that there were none but still hoping that it was too early to have developed noticeable scars.

Specifically for progesterone:

Con: near constant ravenous hunger Pro: greater difference in fat distribution, especially top growth

Make up wipes or creams are ideal.

Big thing is that these are not water-based and require a little bit of solvent help get along. One of the safest things to try would probably be a little bit of olive oil. 

Honestly, dating apps can be really good for this. Although polyamorous, I state in my profile that I am also open to just friends and my interests. Two of my best friends I met 4 years ago via Tinder. There are plenty of folks looking for friends on them. It especially seems like that for OKC.

Edit: most of my trans friends have been on a local discord community or through people I met on it.

I am living it, and I am living my best life.

Agender/enby with a nebulous connection to gender at best. For me, I will be ever in transition for as long as I’m alive and adapting. And I take comfort in that.

But for a more serious answer:

Between the milestones of recognizing that I am trans and accepting myself - mental health care (including HRT), support from my friends and partners, and a whole lot of introspection. I’m grateful to have the privilege of all that. And I wish it was more accessible.

I consider non-binary identities raised with an enforced binary socialization like myself have every reason to identify as trans. That’s not explicitly displayed in Nimona, but I can confirm that I felt represented and had an incredibly emotional reaction to the film.

Also: there is at least one trans pride flag colors not-so-hidden in the movie. 🏳️‍⚧️

I’m curious if this visualization is like my own. I can very vividly imagine an apple but then the web of thought expands out, and I’m near simultaneously visualizing different colors, shapes, varieties, artistic representations, states of being eaten or degraded, and viewed at different angles, lighting, and settings in rapid succession, so that all the images overlap in a blur of what it is that’s meant by apple.

Similar. It was throwing me off while programming though (especially with vim key bindings), so I’m currently trying quotes in the same position but under a different layer on my Moonlander. Most likely going to switch back to quotes to default layer, colon as secondary, and keep backtick in the third layer.

Like mentioned elsewhere, folks with menstruation cycles are well known to show exacerbated ADHD symptoms with the fluctuations in hormones.

Progesterone made my ADHD a lot worse. Second biggest reason I stopped taking it once getting up to where I wanted to be in top growth. (first being that I was constantly ravenously hungry)

Going back on spironolactone has made it better though. Missing my evening doses of that and estradiol will throw me off a bit the next day.

They’re words that have been having less and less meaning to me over the last couple years.

To me, they’re the extremes of what society says are the inconsistent rules. I have been increasingly drawn to queerness, and the refusal to align with a single of these in favor of being one’s self.

I have been more in touch with aspects of both since transitioning. Same for shedding a lot of the toxic expectations of both. And that has only highlighted that it’s a socially enforced binary.

I really wish people in general would stop labeling anyone but themselves as eggs or making similar assumptions.

If I had to pick one: “IDK If I’m a Boy” - Blue Foster

Transfem enby:

Definitely notice some of the men I’d hung around as friends started being more dismissive of me when interacting as though they clearly thought less of me. Not sure the ratio of typical misogyny to transphobia.

The weird one was actually noticing coworkers starting to express some protective, almost herding like behavior. Was simultaneously endearing to recognize they still see me as part of the group but also incredibly patronizing.