Give it a try. Still an exciting read after all this time.

You jest, but that’s actually an important point for understanding. What narcissists and autists share in common is difficulty taking social perspective. They struggle to or are unable to see what something looks like from the other participant’s perspective. The reasons why they have this difficulty are different though. Narcissists don’t regard others as equals and instead see them as resources to use or discard. Its a problem of delayed social-emotional maturation. Autists have pragmatic communication differences possibly due to neurological differences. They lack the hardware and software needed to do effortless empathic reading of others. However, they are often perfectly willing to learn how to do empathy as a foreign language (cognitive empathy) when they get to the point where they appreciate their difficulties and see the utility in learning how to compensate.

Too broad of a brush stroke. BPD isn’t as toxic as NPD or ASPD. Even within NPD there are variations of toxicity. Cluster B’s nickname is the “dramatic and erratic” cluster, and some of what falls within there is much more about trauma fallout than evil megalomania.

867-5309 probably

More like Tolkien’s orcs

People unfamiliar with narcissistic abusive families really do not know, cannot conceptualize, how bad the trauma is for those who have lived inside them.

“But of those hapless who were snared by Melkor little is known of a certainty. […] Yet this is held true by the wise of Eressëa: that all those of the Quendi that came into the hands of Melkor, ere Utumno was broken, were put there in prison, and by slow arts of cruelty and wickedness were corrupted and enslaved. Thus did Melkor breed the hideous race of the Orkor in envy and mockery of the Eldar, of whom they were afterwards the bitterest foes. For the Orkor had life and multiplied after the manner of the Children of Ilúvatar; and naught that had life of its own, nor the semblance thereof, could ever Melkor make since his rebellion in the Ainulindalë before the Beginning: so say the wise. And deep in their dark hearts the Orkor loathed the Master whom they served in fear, the maker only of their misery. This maybe was the vilest deed of Melkor and the most hateful to Eru”

However, recognize that grief may result. It’s a loss of the fantasy of people who love you. That hurts.

Roberts is a white male. Barrett is just a woman.

Thank you. Californian over here. I am disgusted with what our government and the magtards that voted them in are doing. Do what you need to do to defend yourselves but please keep in mind Americans are not all awful.

“Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize half of them are stupider than that.”

George Carlin

Its not just money and power he wants. Read May Trump’s book and you’ll learn his father was a psychopath who verbally berated his older brother Fred (Mary’s father) so much so that Fred found comfort in alcohol and died young. Young Donald learned to identify with the aggressor in order to win his father’s regard. To my mind, Putin reminds Trump of his father and he wants to please his father.

He’s plenty smart in terms of verbal fluency and debate. However he lacks introspective capacity or moral center or empathy, without which he is simply an ambitiously sharp tool being wielded by others (like Thiel)

An excuse to post a link to this article

She’s been fine, but it is past time for change

Maybe not western european in particular but you sound 100% Bombadilian to me. I’ll bet your boots are yellow.

Apparently blind and unaware of the deficit.

How can I explain color to a blind man? You’re either attuned to the suffering around you or you’re contributing to it. Apparently you can’t see that. You must be blind.

What contact in your personal or professional life have you had with trans folk? Are you speaking with experience of appreciating their pain or are you just speaking based on what you’ve heard?

“This is fine”