I am not sure if you are a fan of audiobooks but I really enjoyed listening Atomic Habits by James Clear and Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg.
BJ Fogg says all human behavior can be broken down into 3 parts M.A.P. = Motivation Ability Prompt.
Brief summary is never trust motivation it ebbs and flows. The easiest thing to change is the prompt. If you are reminded/prompted to do something then it’s much more likely you will actually do it then just trusting yourself to remember. Lol.
Always forget tk brush your teeth before bed? Put your toothbrush in your pillow. That kind of thing.
Then the last thing is ability. And this is where the whole concept of tiny habits really takes off. Don’t set unrealistic expectations. Keep it small. Don’t say I’m going to clean all the dishes. Just say I’m going to put one dish in the dishwasher. Then when you do that celebrate yourself accomplishing what you said you were going to do.
Accumulate small wins, build confidence overtime, and don’t beat yourself up if you don’t do it. Just start fresh and try again.
I’m not even close to there yet with having my shit together but I can see how it actually could help my ADHD brain. It feels like a lot of self help books take for granted how different people’s minds work. This feels like it still fits. At least for me.
Plus I will put the audiobook back on if I am feeling unmotivated and it helps motivate me to do the things. Like hell I can do this and off I go. 😁
I am not sure if you are a fan of audiobooks but I really enjoyed listening Atomic Habits by James Clear and Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg.
BJ Fogg says all human behavior can be broken down into 3 parts M.A.P. = Motivation Ability Prompt.
Brief summary is never trust motivation it ebbs and flows. The easiest thing to change is the prompt. If you are reminded/prompted to do something then it’s much more likely you will actually do it then just trusting yourself to remember. Lol.
Always forget tk brush your teeth before bed? Put your toothbrush in your pillow. That kind of thing.
Then the last thing is ability. And this is where the whole concept of tiny habits really takes off. Don’t set unrealistic expectations. Keep it small. Don’t say I’m going to clean all the dishes. Just say I’m going to put one dish in the dishwasher. Then when you do that celebrate yourself accomplishing what you said you were going to do.
Accumulate small wins, build confidence overtime, and don’t beat yourself up if you don’t do it. Just start fresh and try again.
I’m not even close to there yet with having my shit together but I can see how it actually could help my ADHD brain. It feels like a lot of self help books take for granted how different people’s minds work. This feels like it still fits. At least for me.
Plus I will put the audiobook back on if I am feeling unmotivated and it helps motivate me to do the things. Like hell I can do this and off I go. 😁
Hope this helps