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    So… Doing your job well is “quiet quitting” now? I don’t want my boss to think I’m quiet quitting, I Guess I’ll have to underperform instead.

    Quiet firing on the other hand is giving raises that are under inflation. Companies should stop this quiet firing shit.

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      Giving raises? My employer quiet quit that more than a decade ago. Meanwhile inflation and price gouging march on.

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        What proportion of people have jumped ship in the last ~8 years as a result? (Understand you could have good reason for sticking around.)

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          It’s a very small company. About 1/3 have moved on. The attraction is that it’s relatively accommodating for other things in your life.

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            Ahh, flexibility definitely compensates for a good bit of opportunity cost. Know people who stay in easier remote jobs to avoid the responsibilities and demands that come with moving to certain higher-paid positions.

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              There’s also freedom from corporate culture, which I have had enough of in the past. Overall I think I’m happier keeping my perfectly tolerable job in its place and earning less, though I can see how others make a different choice and would negatively judge what I do.

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      I fail to see how we are responsible for the emotional well being of our management. Did I do my job? Yep! Did I do it well? Yep! Stand and deliver thy raise O manager, or face the wrath of my competing job offer.

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      News organizations have employees as well. It doesn’t surprise me that they are in on the gaslighting.

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          I am not placing blame, just observing that News Companies still have staff and could be on the side of the Capitalists when it comes to worker rights.

          Edit: I think I understand. I agree, not all staff writers (or any?) could be in a position to refuse the editor when they say “write me a piece on quiet quitting”.

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      I’ve taken a pay cut two years in a row for that reason. Last year was somewhat understandable with the insane inflation but this year kind of stung

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        Find another job. You’ll quickly find out if you are worth the raise you wanted. My bet is you are.

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          I’ve got my feelers out there but I’m gonna stick it out here for another year - currently working on a certification to switch to a higher-paid position and the company is paying for it

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        How is taking a pay cut when there’s massive inflation even remotely understandable? Inflation means that they need to pay you more, not less; your costs are rising.

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      this. every so often someone posts an article on how wages are beating inflation and im like. where? who? this is not my experience.

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      stop this

      Bosses everywhere: taking notes “no… more… raises.” sets down the notepad “see, now they are speaking my language!”

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      It was always a stupid fucking term that equates doing a job with quitting.

      Not increasing pay isn’t quit firing, because there is no firing. It is just businesses being stingy.

      Edit: Guess I wasn’t clear enough that I am responding to the general statement that not giving raises is constructive dismissal, and didn’t add a footnote that not giving raises to specific people could be part of constructive dismissal. Nuance is hard.

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        Not increasing pay isn’t quit firing, because there is no firing. It is just businesses being stingy.

        it’s constructive dismissal.

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          I feel like meeting that to a legal level is a stretch. Minor cost of living raises that don’t meet inflation doesn’t rise to that level in my uneducated understanding

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          Only if it targets specific employees with the goal of getting them to quit. If the business doesn’t give raises in general they are just being cheap.

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        Not increasing pay with inflation is a pay cut because your pay is literally worth less without it.

        In a sane world, if the fed is dictating the money supply, with their actions directly impacting inflation, every workers pay should be indexed to inflation. Same goes for taxation, welfare payments, etc. Companies raise their prices regardless.

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        I agree it’s a dumb term, so I made up my own dumb term. (At least I think I made it up)

        Employees are allowed to be just as stingy as businesses.

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      Quiet quitting is the practice of meeting minimum expectations with low moral or engagement. Underperforming could lead to termination for not meeting minimum expectations.

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        Woosh.

        Also quiet quitting isn’t anything except a bullshit term dreamed up by capitalist crybabies.

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          More like inexperienced middle-management. Discussing the team member’s reasons for disengagement could lead to a solution for them, or even multiple team members. Saying “I have nothing to complain about” proves ineffective leadership looking for cause to terminate.

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            The only solution I would accept involves guillotines for the rich and the immediate end to the exploitation of the proletariat globally, so I don’t think that’s going to work for most middle managers.

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              That’s fine. I’m just saying the managers in that headline are the problem, not the employees.

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                  Engagement and morale are measured independently from performance. The blurb states that the employees are meeting minimum expectations of performance, so the manager has “nothing to complain about.” I’m saying that’s bullshit leadership. If your employees are unhappy, you should ask them why and address any work-related dissatisfaction.

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            Well that’s completely fucked. That’s also illegal.

            Exactly. But a little illegal activity never stopped a corp. Wage theft is rampant, estimated at $50 billion a year.

            I don’t work for free.

            And that’s called quiet quitting in OP’s post.

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              I said this in another thread, but I’m not criticizing quiet quitting. I’m criticizing the managers’ response to it. If your employees are meeting expectations but unhappy, you should try to improve their work life, not shrug your shoulders because you don’t have a reason to fire them.

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      Quiet quitting: doing what you’re paid for

      Normal working: doing what you’re paid for but also asking managers for more work when you’re done -> that’s what’s expected from management and also takes some load off their shoulders, they love that

      Over achievement: doing what you’re paid for and more without asking management -> management will promise you a seat at the table of you continue doing that long enough!

      If there’s advancement opportunities try to do the second one until you reach a point where you’re happy and then do the first one :)

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          I’m a skeptic when it comes to lots of things where the common man is getting fucked.

          May I ask y’all how highly-paid individuals in high positions came to be that way?

          Are they ALL the results of nepotistic practices, ALL inheritors of wealth? Or 80% got there that way?

          (In the SF Bay Area, certainly seems I know high performers who work their asses off, make shit tons of money, get promotions before jumping ship to other companies, work at startups that get acquired…)

          Disclaimer: not endorsing neglecting your family or personal life for a pipe dream of prosperity, just sharing one perspective

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            The Bay Area is a well known warp in reality. Don’t expect your experiences there to map to experiences elsewhere.

            And even so, it’s usually who you know, how well you can sell to VC, and luck that determine success out there.

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            In the current climate, internal promotions are a rarity. They say that you should be changing companies roughly every 3 years to ensure you’re getting paid what you’re worth, as pay raises don’t keep up with experience. New responsibilities come quickly while promotions and pay raises come slowly. The number of times I’ve heard somebody say that they left a job for an immediate 10-30% (or even 50%!) pay raise and reduced responsibilities for even the same job has gotten to the point where I just expect it now.

            Like everything else, it varies, but company loyalty is long dead.

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          If you don’t have any advancement opportunities where you’re working change job or work your wage. Same if you don’t want to move up, work your wage.

          I don’t know why you guys don’t get it…

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        Tell me you’re 14 and have never worked a day in your life without telling me you’re 14 and have never worked a day in your life.

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          Not a manager, just someone who did exactly what I said, worked a bit harder for a year and a half, moved two steps up the ladder and now sitting cozy doing exactly what I’m paid for and nothing more as I don’t want to move any higher because it would mean being in a position of authority.

          Do you really think I would tell you to aim to reach a point where you’re happy and then start to work your wage if I was a manager?

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        Or crawl so far up management’s ass while throwing all your coworkers under the bus. THAT is how you get ahead. Stepping on your coworkers.

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    I had an employee review with my manager this week, at my request. She told me she wasn’t comfortable uptraining me right now even though they badly need the help in the position I asked to be crosstrained for, because they’d rather hire someone just for the role; but we could talk about it again in two months. After a little digging, I found that (A) they can’t afford to lose me from my lower-paid role and (2) they know I’m looking for another job and don’t want to train me until I demonstrate I’m planning to stay.

    My response is that (A) well you’re definitely gonna lose me now and (2) I’m definitely no longer willing to stay.

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      Similar situation on my end awhile back. Location had begun losing people. I was in a bottom rung management position, more title than authority, and the team knew it. However, I was also the only manager willing to be consistently on later shifts. Due to pretty intense compartmentalization issues were often isolated and fixed by managers within each department. Except later on at night I was alone with a smaller team. This presented a bit of a situation:

      1. If a problem came up I was expected to text or call a manager. As you can imagine, they did not often reply or pick up.

      2. Many problems require rather immediate solutions.

      3. I wasn’t being trained to receive the skills necessary to deal with many situations so I began enabling key members of the evening team and standing in front of them if mistakes were made, acting as a wall.

      4. Due to all of this, and a lot of work being handled by a smaller team, (and some issues going consistently ignored by senior management) we saw several people leave. In the middle of all this I was isolated and made out to be the reason for some systemic issues, told I could no longer take the initiative to help, and the team caught wind.

      Eventually I began looking for other jobs. When I let my bosses know boy were they surprised. By the time I left one manager had claimed to have started having anxiety attacks during their shift, the whole unreachable during situations thing became a problem for upper, and well…long story short shit and fan began to meet.

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        1. If a problem came up I was expected to text or call a manager. As you can imagine, they did not often reply or pick up.

        2. Many problems require rather immediate solutions.

        These are not your problems. If management has enacted a procedure that doesn’t work, don’t change it or you will be blamed for any failure.

        Send a few emails to document your opinion that there are problems. Otherwise, do exactly what was recommended. You want the policy to fail. Don’t try to improve it without management support.

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          I learned this in my previous job. We were a city-owned theater, which came with all of the trappings of government bureaucracy. But we were also open after hours, and did a lot of technical work for our shows. The city’s IT would log off on Friday at 5pm, and not log back in again until 8am on Monday. We were one of the few departments that was open over the weekend and after hours, (often until 1 or 2am when loading shows out.)

          So naturally, we butted heads with IT a lot. Because we didn’t have access to change things we often needed to change. Whenever we needed to urgently troubleshoot something before a show started, our hands were almost always tied by IT. And IT’s given solution was always the same. Submit a ticket, and we’ll get to it when we get to it. But when you have 2000 people waiting on a show to start at 7pm on a Saturday, you can’t wait for IT to get back into the office on Monday.

          Historically, the solution was to use our own gear. Every technician had their own personal laptop, so they could use that instead of the city laptop. But this caused issues of its own, because we couldn’t connect to any of the city-controlled gear as the city network was MAC filtered, (and IT obviously wasn’t going to allow our personal devices to connect to their network.) We worked with what we had, worked around problems we couldn’t fix, and it was a lot of extra stress for no extra benefit; The higher-ups didn’t see a problem because the shows were never visibly impacted. And IT didn’t see a problem, because the higher-ups weren’t complaining.

          Eventually, we just started letting it burn. Shows suddenly started 15 to 30 minutes late, (which was unheard of in a building where even 2 minutes late was considered unacceptable.) Clients didn’t get equipment they had paid for, because it was broken on Friday evening and we couldn’t troubleshoot it over the weekend. Projectors didn’t have video feeds, because techs stopped using their personal laptops for shows. Et cetera, et cetera. Instead, the techs simply started noting every time they wanted to fix something but couldn’t because their hands were tied.

          And wouldn’t you know it, the system got fixed. IT was suddenly required to keep someone on call for weekend tickets. Because when people stop propping up the broken system, all of the flaws get discovered and heads roll until shit gets fixed.

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      At this point, you don’t fucking care. Go to their manager and tell them about it.

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      It’s companies gaslighting us that we are either looking for new roles, or we are working hard to make more money/ask for a raise or else we’ll find a new role.

      Managers see both these things as “not being part of the fam”, but really they just want to take more and give less while playing the victim.

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      Because people cannot like you and you still feel obligated to earn your paycheck and you have honor. Unlike the dip shits you are quitting from because they are drunken assholes that can’t see past their whiney little emergencies.

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      Yeah I always thought ‘quiet quitters’ referred to people checking out of their jobs emotionally and doing just barely enough to not get fired, so actually underperforming, not because they couldn’t do better but because they stopped caring at some point. In that sense they have already quit, quietly. But now it seems that anyone who doesn’t go above and beyond can be a ‘quiet quitter’? Doesn’t make much sense to me.

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        Nah, quit quitting is just the new term for it. Boomers called it working to the letter of your contract. Quit quitting isn’t doing less than your job duties. It’s simply refusing to bend over backwards and give your employer all of your free time. You don’t take on extra responsibility. You don’t come in early or stay late. You come in on time, do your exact job duties as written, then you go home.

        But this terrifies employers, who have historically relied on manipulation and coercion to get employees to work beyond the scope of what they were hired for. So they’ve started calling it “quit quitting” in an effort to rebrand it as something negative.

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        I’ve known people who are the best workers on their team, but put in like 40% effort. Does that count as quiet quitting? IDK.

        To be clear, I’m not excusing the article, which is a bad joke. That being said, there are plenty of people out there that are really good at their jobs, but don’t put in full effort. I don’t have a problem with these people at all (really who does 100% effort all of the time?).

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      I had basically this exact conversation with my supervisor last week. She was like, “I like to have ___ done by Thursdays,” because I was sick on Thursday and said I’d do it first thing Friday morning. So I said, “Ok, so is the deadline for this task Thursdays then? Because that’s never been communicated to me.” And she said, “Well, I like to have it done by Thursdays.” Holy fuck, JUST TELL ME HOW MANY PIECES OF FLAIR I NEED.

      Anyway, I’m looking for a new job because I can’t work in a place that wants to penalize people for not living up to expectations they didn’t know existed. My entire review (first one in 2 1/2 years) was a series of “Remember this thing from months ago? Well we didn’t like how you did that but we never said anything and just sat on it until now.” Cool, thanks for setting me up to fail, appreciate that.

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          Exactly. I’ve always known my boss was great at most of her job but not very good at people management (because I don’t think she particularly wants to do it), but being blindsided with things it’s too late to even address was so demoralizing. What the heck am I supposed to do about a phone call from December about an issue that’s been long since resolved?

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    “Jill, I’m afraid we have a problem. Your quality work is very high, as always. But you don’t look enough like your job isn’t soul crushing. I’m not saying you look like you’re bored out of your mind or that I think working here is depriving you of your will to live. I’m just saying that there are times when you’re not smiling like a completely unhinged person and that makes me question whether you really want to be here.”

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      Reminds me of my art professor’s story about getting her doctorate, in which a bunch of tenured professors came together to review her work to give her the degree. One professor disagreed with giving her doctorate because apparently she didn’t look like she had a tough time getting it. That sent my art professor over the edge because she’d worked so hard and suffered so much for it so she started crying in front of the professors and told them she wasn’t going to bother getting her doctorate anymore and that she was quitting right there and then. The other tenured professors were quick to convince the other to change their mind and eventually gave the degree, but my art professor still remembers how shitty it was to decide something so important to her on the basis that she suffered much less than her peers in producing something good or better work.

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    “Most people work just hard enough not to get fired and get paid just enough money not to quit.”

    – George Carlin.

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      Shit I’ve been doing that at all my jobs for the last 20+ years. Apparently it’s not really a real problem.

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    I see a lot of people complaining about the term “quiet quitting.” In this thread there are people saying that that’s exactly what they want in a job, that that’s what they’ve been doing since before the term existed, etc…

    I’m curious what other succinct terms people would use to describe the act of doing the bare minimum and not engaging beyond what is required and asked for.

    I’m asking because I also dislike the term “quiet quitting”, and I know such an activity has existed forever. At the same time it does seem useful because I can’t think of a succinct way to describe what it explicitly describes. In the past it seems like such a behavior was implicit, but with modern “engagement” and “hustle” and “110%” work culture, it seems like we need a more explicit term.

    So, is there another term we can use that people don’t hate as much?

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      If you buy a monitor from Amazon, do you expect that they will thrown in another one for free?

      What about if you hire a plumber to come fixe a leaky pipe, do you expect them to install a new set of water taps for free while they’re at it?

      Do you go to McDonalds and expect a posh table waiter, and a complimentary bottle of Beaujoulais wine along with lightly seasoned oregano and olive oil garlick bread, for the price of a Big Mac?

      So why expect that workers will do more work than what they are being paid for?!

      If it’s only a business relationship, as those very same managers treat it when it’s time for layoffs or when giving below inflation raises because the job market isn’t tight and they can easilly find replacements, then it’s only fair that workers too treaty it as only a business relationship and only provide the level of service they’re being paid for.

      If they want the haute cuisine Michellin Starred service they’re gonna have to pay more than McDonald prices.

      The whole calling it “quiet quiting” is just a reflection of the moneyed class wanting to, as the Brits would call it, eat the cake and still have it afterwards.

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      I’m curious what other succinct terms people would use to describe the act of doing the bare minimum and not engaging beyond what is required and asked for.

      Working. Doing the job for which you were hired.

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        That implies malice though, which I don’t like. What’s malicious about doing exactly what we agreed I’m paid to do, nothing more, and leaving when the whistle blows? In a job market where promotions are a pipe dream and equitable raises not far from it, why should I waste my time trying to impress someone that won’t reciprocate?

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      I’m curious what other succinct terms people would use to describe the act of doing the bare minimum and not engaging beyond what is required and asked for.

      Perhaps these aren’t punchy, but that’s also why we’re stuck with awful things like “quiet quitting”. But these capture the correct (IMO) sentiment:

      • “Adhering to the employment contract.”
      • “Doing my job.”
      • “Meeting documented expectations.”
      • “Following management’s lead.”

      The last one is important. There’s a concept of “modeling” in terms of providing strong examples of allowed/expected behavior in the workplace. If management really wants people to go above and beyond, that change starts with a show of the same on their part. I would bet that a lot of frustrated managers are themselves not putting in the extra effort, or do not make a show of it.

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      high quality working. individuals really need to lower the bar. when I was young the expectation when hiring minum wage was if you got someone who showed up, on time, consistantly and was not drunk or on drugs. that was a high quality hire. workers need to learn to slack like the 80’s.

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    Can we stop calling every behavior we don’t like “gaslighting” already please?

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      It’s as if I’m being gaslit into thinking I don’t know what the word means!

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      gaslighting noun gas·​light·​ing ˈgas-ˌlī-tiŋ : psychological manipulation of a person usually over an extended period of time that causes the victim to question the validity of their own thoughts, perception of reality, or memories and typically leads to confusion, loss of confidence and self-esteem, uncertainty of one’s emotional or mental stability, and a dependency on the perpetrator

      i’d say use of the word is actually accurate here

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    There’s a great reply to this in the same publication: https://www.irishtimes.com/opinion/letters/2024/04/27/quiet-quitters-or-good-workers/

    Sir, – I read with interest Olive Keogh’s article (“Quiet quitting: You always had workers who did 9-5 but it’s a creeping malaise, employers say”, April 25th).

    The article defines working one’s contract hours as a form of quitting, a contortion of fact that I have struggled to grasp since laying eyes on it.

    It is asserted that employees are obliged to put in extra hours, do additional work and recalibrate their work-life balance for the “benefits” of social capital, “wellbeing” and career success.

    I have a novel proposal. Pay employees in actual capital for the additional time they are expected to work.

    Dispense with the relaxation classes on their lunch breaks and the sweet treats and the tokenistic attitude of management to the labour that drives their business.

    Instead, resource staff sufficiently to complete work within business hours, respect the rights of staff to a fulfilling life not defined by their day jobs, and stop using gaslighting terms like “quiet quitting” for fulfilling the terms of their contract of employment.

    This may seem radical to those managers who have been around the block, but KPIs (key performance indicators) don’t spend time with my loved ones nor do they put food on the table. – Yours, etc,

    SHANE FITZPATRICK,

    Dublin 7.

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      That letter is way too polite for the “go fuck yourselves” that I had in mind… I honestly think we should start actually spitting in the faces of managers of that kind that we happen to know in private life, be it family or neighbors, just show them disdain and disgust coming from people whom they have no power over.