I was talking to a female friend and young Arnold Schwarzenegger came up on conversation. I pulled up a picture of him and spent a long time looking at it. Then said "I am trying to decide if he is attractive.

I know for me women who are fit and toned, attractive. Once a woman is muscular, attractive falls off a cliff. Probably because they start looking like a man.

The Arnold picture

Edit yes I am a guy

  • Dangdoggo@kbin.social
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    6 months ago

    The kind of hypermuscularity that body builders have looks unattractive on any gender imo and not just aesthetically. It also is a clear message that they will not eat taco bell and watch Pokemon reruns at 2 AM with me.

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          I work at an airport. We have shifts spanning all 24 hours. Nope, I could work more normal hours, but I choose not to. 4:30 am is a little earlier than I would like, but it does have a few advantages, I don’t catch as much of the heat in the summer, I get off early in the day if I don’t work overtime, and that shift has the most competent coworkers. Oh and the company I work for offers some pretty good benefits.

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    6 months ago

    No, not attractive. That’s a man who spends a LOT of time in the gym, looking at himself in the mirror. He eats and drinks weird stuff and possibly is on drugs that make him angry. Not my cup of tea.

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    6 months ago

    I’m not a woman. I find extremely muscular people unattractive among all genders. There’s a point where it switches from fit to grotesque.

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    6 months ago

    I know for me women who are fit and toned, attractive. Once a woman is muscular, attractive falls off a cliff

    Speak for yourself

    - A lesbian

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        6 months ago

        Once a woman is muscular, attractive falls off a cliff

        There. I have removed the context from your quote and you find yourself on the defensive once again. Have at you!

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            6 months ago

            Partially poking at OP’s assailer. Partially showing why OP’s message could be read the way it [seemingly] was. It’s really quite a silly thread.

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      As a fellow lesbian, there is definitely a cliff, but it’s post karlach. Personally the older I get the more I love a mom bod, but a jocky herbo type? Yeah I’m down. But once you get into bodybuilder levels yeah no. Though as I say this, it’s not the muscle, it’s the contrast of high muscle with low body fat. Because like, yeah powerlifters can get it, but when you start looking like Arnold with tits, nah.

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    6 months ago

    Nicely toned is probably ideal. But I prefer skinny than overly muscular like body builders. Tall and skinny or lanky was pretty much my type especially when I was younger. Now my husband has a bit of fat around the belly and I love that too.

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    6 months ago

    Yes. The amount of time a man spends in the gym to build muscles like that is inversely proportionate to how much time he has available to spend fortifying a relationship with a woman.

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    Personally, I do not find men (or women) that are as built as that photo of Arnold attractive. I do like nicely-toned arms though, I am definitely an “arms” chick, as in, I find muscular arms in particular attractive. But there’s definitely a point where if the muscles are too big, it starts to be less appealing.

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        To an extent, both. I wouldn’t say I have a strong sense of attraction to begin with, and conversely I’m not outside dating any guy if we grow into each other, but people of his type draw me in even less. If he had a different persona/aura (think Jareth) but retained his physical image, I may be drawn to him, but he is not mismatched with his physical image.

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    Not attractive at all to me. I don’t mind if a guy is toned, but muscular is really unattractive to me. The thing with attraction is that it’s individual, and I know some women who would love this look, I tend to like geeky guys, but I have friends who like big guys, bald guys, short guys, skinny guys, attraction is just super individual.