I personelly think lemmy users doesn’t just have that reddit feel where if you referenced something most people will get it or when you say something everyone will say the same thing and fill the thread .and people on lemmy seems to think they are absolutely right.

(EDIT :I am not saying i miss these thing or like them even though i kinda do i am just saying things like that were a part of reddit culture like how 4chan have their on culture. Like lemmy is supposed to be a reddit alternative but now there are no niche subs and everyone is too into politics it just doesn’t feel like a reddit alternative .) .

I have been on lemmy for more than 2 months and i mostly lurked or had temp accounts with different usernames (there were only one or two which i have now closed) but this place seems more serious than lighthearted fun but i will still stay here becuase f**k corpos . So these are my views and opinion what do you guys think ?

EDIT: I must include one thing which is on reddit i have never had a real account i just made one or two the entire time i used it which were throwaways that i used to view a post from “subs that are not reviewed” and may not be safe (unless in their app of course -logic.exe missing) or comment . Here i have aldready decided to create a permanent account and start contributing to the communities and i have only been here for 2 months. And i guess i just used reddit to access information and just didn’t felt the need to have an acc or contrubute .END RANT.

EDIT : DO READ THE EDITS.

EDIT : I AM NOT IMPLYING OR EVEN WANT ANYONE TO GO BACK I REALLY DO WANT LEMMY TO BE BETTER . I AM NIT SHOUTING I AM JUST AFRAID SOME PEOPLE ARE GETTING THE WRONG IDEA . AND FOR WHAT ITS WORTH IN MY OPINION REDDIT IS SHIT COMPARED TO LEMMY. SO PLEASE NO ONE GO BACK AND IF YOU HAVE ANY REDDIT FRIENDS INVITE THEM HERE.

  • ChunkMcHorkle@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    7 months ago

    I’m struggling to differentiate with what I read online and what’s actually real in that regard.

    As someone who once had to navigate a very difficult work situation involving that, may I make a suggestion? Just forget the trans thing unless it’s front and center, take everything you’ve read and heard with a grain of salt, and let the people you’ve met just be themselves to you. Let them inform your ideas of who they are, themselves, directly, for better or for worse. They’re people first and foremost; in that sense the trans is secondary. Meet them in your shared humanity and you won’t go wrong.

    I say that because they’re just people too, like you are, but sometimes trans people bring a whole world of hurt, betrayal, exclusion, rejection, and wounding along with them to the table that we normies cannot even begin to comprehend.

    This was many years ago, back in the 90s, but I was in the bad situation I was in because the trans person saw ill-intent that did not exist – but it was because they’d had so much of that shit already they just weren’t able to see that no one had prejudice toward them in that specific situation. To simply be accepted was literally that new for them. Thus there was a whole lot of miscommunication, inadvertent offense given and taken, and far more drama than there ever needed to be all around. It got cleared up, and we all learned a lot, but it was hard for a while.

    So just let them be themselves, and be as courteous as you would with any stranger. It’s the fastest way to equilibrium with anyone, but especially with people who are not used to just being allowed to be. They already know you’re uncomfortable, and that you probably don’t know how to deal with the whole thing, because that’s most of the people they meet. So if you’re just cool and normal to them, as you’d be to anyone else, you’ll be a breath of fresh air. Hope this helps.