Or, would you say most women actually perfer submissive men?
To be more specific, I’m talking about men who are submissive in their role in the relationship as a partner and also sexually.
It’s an interesting, I guess, maybe taboo sort of topic that I would like opinions on.
Thank you for reading.
There are going to be as many opinions on this as there are women who like having sex with men. Some women like dominant men, some like submissive men, some like doms on even days and subs on odd days. Some only like doms on a full moon. Im using silly examples, but the point is human sexuality can’t come anywhere close to fitting into binaries like this. Individuals have their preferences, and no two individuals’ preferences are going to be the same.
Actually on the question of “do you like submissive men?”, since it’s a yes or no question there’s going to be two opinions on this.
I’m hoping to find a woman who likes pedantic men, myself.
I sense that the question belies a mindset that romance is a numbers game, and I am eager to point out that it’s not. Success in love, in my experience, comes from the willingness to share yourself with others and the courage to be vulnerable.
Don’t worry about how many people would like what you’ve got to offer. Focus on genuine connections with the people in your orbit, and branch out from there.
Caveat: unless you’re surrounded by abusers
I will not address the sexual aspect, but the social aspect, I know I prefer my guys to be more “submissive.” That doesn’t mean I want them to be quiet and never take charge; it means I want to be the one to take the leading role, take them out for dinner, provide for them, and so on. I prefer guys who are more domestic, down to earth, more in tune with i.e. cooking (since I am not), but I would also like to take them out for shopping trips and feel good knowing I can buy this person a gift. No, this is not the norm; many people still follow and believe in the primitive gender roles as we know them. Some people who read this comment may not even believe me; how could a woman enjoy spoiling a man!? Unbelievable. But no, I genuinely do, and I wish there were more spaces for women like me with preferences like this.
I like being spoiled.
And I baked a crusty loaf of sourdough bread this morning.
Perfect match.
Now kiss
Sourdough starter? I just met the girl!
FYI: there is a difference between wanting a submissive man and wanting to dominate (or break) a powerful man. I imagine there are more women of the latter than the former.
There’s also a difference, in sex terms, between a submissive and a bottom.
Most people don’t want to date submissives. Plenty do. Some don’t realize they want it.
I’m masc presenting and I was worried for a while that women tended to not like submissive men, which was really discouraging for me. I found my current partner though, who does, and that’s really changed my perspective. I’m not remarkable in any means (I’m 6’ tall but not conventionally attractive, not thin/don’t have tremendous muscle. Just kinda average) but my perspective has changed from “women don’t like submissive men” to “lots of women do like submissive men, there’s just 1) not a ton of them, 2) they don’t tend to advertise it the same way men do, and 3) they don’t tend to look as intently as submissive men do for dominant partners” – partially because there’s just less dominant women, and partially because I think they find long-term partners that meet those needs and that’s it for them
I’m not gonna tell you it’s easy, it’s not, but I’m a thoroughly unremarkable person that was pretty comfortably in your shoes for a long time and then I lucked out into my partner. The best advice I can give is being a decent person goes a long way towards smoothing over any concerns with dom/sub dynamics, and if that dynamic is important to you it’s good to be open to talking about it even if it results in failure. Find spaces where advertising that is beneficial too, join your local kink community – I’ve been to a few kink events, namely just sloshes and munches, casual stuff out at a bar. Nothing tremendously freaky, but it’s a good place to find women that might be more interested in someone that identifies themselves as a sub. Good luck!!
It is hard to estimate but in general I would say there are more submissives of any gender than dominants interested in them.
Which is basically why we had WW2
There are people who prefer other people in specific ways, sometimes.
That’s about as precise as this ridiculous notion can be entertained.
What if I were to tell you this ridiculous notion is actually a fetish thing?
That would be a different question then, wouldn’t it?
In my experience, on the whole, no. I’ve found being a submissive man actively repulses many women, some will entertain it but aren’t into it, and a very small minority enjoy being dominant- and a significant number of those charge for it.
Pro dommes wouldn’t be a thing if submissive men were more universally accepted.
There’s all kinds of reasons for this and there is no one size fits all answer. I speak only from my experience.
