My childhood best friend is ADHD, all but 1 of my other childhood friends is ADHD and about half of my current friends that I hang out with are either ADHD, on the autism spectrum or likely to be but as yet undiagnosed.
We’re the only ones who can tolerate each other for long periods. Most neurotypicals are extremely annoyed by our inattentivenss and impulsivity.
What? I zoned out.
Yes, because other people are boring
I’ve tried so many times. Can’t do it. Especially as an adult and all most people want to talk about are their kids and work.
Thanks no thanks. I’m talking to you for stimulation. Not reminders of my own responsibilities I’ve probably been inadequately maintaining.
They don’t… do anything! They don’t talk about themselves or that side project they’re obsessed with (what side project?) or their shower thoughts or… How am I supposed to work with that?
I think it’s that neuro-diverse people tend to gravitate towards each other, so this is probably survivor’s bias. I definitely find that other people with ADHD are able to grab and hold my attention better than neuro-typical people and also they’re more understanding and forgiving when I’m flaky, or too hyperactive, or whatever.
I mean, have you met many neurotypical people? It might be a confirmation bias caused by social sorting. I’m ‘quirky’ and I expect nothing less from the people I choose to hang with. It just turns out the quirks I gravitate toward are correlated with neurodiversity.
Aside from myself, there is only one other person in my family that has been formally diagnosed as being neurodivergent (autism). I was diagnosed when I was 32. So I found it interesting that even decades before that, I happened to tend to be closer to people that were formally diagnosed with ADHD. The vast majority of my classmates, coworkers and students that I have tutored were very likely neurotypical. But this wasnt true of most of the people I chose to be around.
I frequently share the show Love on a Spectrum to others. They get surprised by some folks on the show who have similar behaviors like their friends/coworkers. And I have to go, “Yep!”
I wonder if that’s due to like people grouping together, or people taking on personality traits of those they spend time with.
I know I’ve picked up a few things that my wife does, like wiping my fingers every time I touch food to eat it.
Yes. I’m neurotypical though. Or not enough for it to be a disorder is probably closer to the truth.
I have been tested as a child. My mother is a special ed teacher and I helped her out in class a few times, so I also feel confident that I don’t have a disorder.
My spouse has it bad though.
It’s probably roughly half, so still much higher than an average sample. I definitely gravitate towards others that can understand on some level.
Yes but i went to a school for people with disabilities.
Same here. I think people just naturally find the people that “get” them. Pretty sure that’s the only reason I got hired at my last job. She’s as ADHD as me!
A good chunk of my close friends (and me) are now diagnosed as adhd
Its like stands, we eventually find each other
I am so far as I know neurotypical. I don’t have a ton of close friends, but of my four I think two have ADHD and two I think are neurotypical.
One of those close friends, I think the majority of their friends are neurodiverse.
No. My friends (especially my closest friends) are not ADHD on the spectrum or have something similar. They may not be sane but definitely not ADHD more the opposite. In my family however that is another picture, but since it is hereditary it’s no wonder.
I just logged in to make this comment, because it is obviously not the norm here.
Yes, but I think I’m the only one that was formally diagnosed for it (ages ago). Because of my ability to identify similarly-brained people, I’ve been able to point out to friends that they have heavy ADHD tendencies too.
Not at all.