Yesterday my girlfriend sent me a message to tell me that she thinks we have to stop our relationship. Several reasons where said, but after 2 days of thinking I understand that yes, our relation was unsustainable.
Now I stoped crying and I’m waiting tomorrow, because we’ll see each other and explain what we have in our minds and hearts. I’m full of hope because I’m pretty sure I know what’s the problem, and I have the solutions for it.
Honestly I don’t really know why I’m writing here but you know it’s just good to write somewhere. I will update this post if things are going bad.
I wish everyone on Earth will one day find someone as much incredible as the girl I love. I wish love for all of you!
It’s not being a new set of clothes to a potential partner.
It’s putting your heart into an existing relationship, and then seeing it discarded so immediately and abruptly that it seems like all your efforts to date have been deemed worthless, and by proxy, that you yourself have always been worthless despite your own buy-in into the relationship.
And sweet gaslighting, placing all of the blame and responsibility onto the guy. So predictable.
It takes two to tango. The chance of the guy being entirely at fault is, statistically speaking, equal to the chances of the woman being entirely at fault. That’s what equality means.
It’s one thing to be approached with a list of issues for months or years, and doing nothing about them. That is a “you-problem”.
It’s quite another thing to be sailing along without a clue in the world and then be staring down a combo hit of previously-unvoiced complaints plus a breakup demand. That is an insult wearing lame-duck-excuse clothing being slapped in your face.
Sounds like this person was a terrible communicator and needs to learn to confront those issues as they arise. So definitely not just a you problem. But not just a them problem, either.