I’ve been trying to break the habit of using “guys.” A lot of people in my area will claim that it’s a gender neutral term here, but in my opinion its use only reinforces the idea of male = default, due to its masculine roots.
I like “pal,” but I can’t seem to use it in a way that doesn’t sound pointed and sarcastic.
I feel that - “guys” is a familiar enough habit that it still takes conscious effort sometimes to use “folks”. “Pal” in my experience comes across a lot like “champ” and doesn’t help the conversation.
My grandmother used to scold me that I was to call women “miss” unless corrected, along with other proper manners from decades before me. The idea that it’s important to respect people and address them in the way that helps them to be comfortable is what the real takeaway is, but it’s tough to shake those habits sometimes.
Same, I’ve been changing “guys” to “folks” and “man” to “fam”.
Because “come on man” has been used for so long that one has been harder. Using fam feels a little out of place for my millennial self but I think Gen Z found a great replacer with “come on fam” and I can get behind that.
I’ve been trying to break the habit of using “guys.” A lot of people in my area will claim that it’s a gender neutral term here, but in my opinion its use only reinforces the idea of male = default, due to its masculine roots.
I like “pal,” but I can’t seem to use it in a way that doesn’t sound pointed and sarcastic.
Use y’all! It’s gender neutral and just plain cute
I feel that - “guys” is a familiar enough habit that it still takes conscious effort sometimes to use “folks”. “Pal” in my experience comes across a lot like “champ” and doesn’t help the conversation.
My grandmother used to scold me that I was to call women “miss” unless corrected, along with other proper manners from decades before me. The idea that it’s important to respect people and address them in the way that helps them to be comfortable is what the real takeaway is, but it’s tough to shake those habits sometimes.
Same, I’ve been changing “guys” to “folks” and “man” to “fam”.
Because “come on man” has been used for so long that one has been harder. Using fam feels a little out of place for my millennial self but I think Gen Z found a great replacer with “come on fam” and I can get behind that.