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      Bonus points if, when called out for it or otherwise inconvenienced for not putting the cart where it belongs, they double down and continue to dump the cart in a parking spot.

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      My parents and I were at the store last week, coming back to our car in a handicap spot (my mom recently had knee surgery). Two assholes had already dropped their carts off in the blue painted areas next to our car blocking the door, and another asshole literally pushed his cart in front of us to join the pile.

      The store’s entrance where all the carts were was literally a dozen steps away.

      I was steaming mad all day, absolutely ruined my outlook on humanity for a few days

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        So if you miss the trash bag when throwing the stuff in McDonalds you don’t pick it up, right? Because there’s people paid to do that. FFS…

        Yeah cleaners are paid to clean that doesn’t mean you should thrash the place. Same thing applies here.

        • I thought this was when I was in 4th grade. I would rip up paper under my desk so the janitors would have work and wouldn’t get fired. But then I grew up and learned there’s other things these positions do. It’s like some people stopped growing at a certain age.

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          I used to know a guy that would leave all his trash right at the table and say “there’s people paid to clean that up”

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    • Not saying “please” or “thank you” to people in the service industry
    • Not able to accept when they are wrong
    • Any type of “I know enough and don’t need to learn more” type of behavior
    • Prioritizing an organization (political party, church, sports team, etc) over actual people
    • Littering
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    They think corporations and for-profit organizations ever have their best interest at heart.

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      My man!

      I doubt this would be first comment on Reddit.

      PS: I wasn’t raised like that I had ti find out myself, cause I felt there is something wrong…

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    Non-adherence to the “Golden Rule.” It’s very simple, do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

    Religious components aside, just don’t be a jerk to others. Start from a place of respect and reevaluate after they show their colors.

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      That’s the plain and simple categorical imperative by our good friend Immanuel Kant!

      “Act only according to that maxim whereby you can at the same time will that it should become a universal law.”

      (it’s a mouthful but he was onto something!)

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        Put another way, “Don’t do shitty things just because you can get away with it; consider if everyone did what you do.”

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        Yeah, I’m a weirdo. Treating others how I want to be treated would be a fucking problem. I don’t like unstructured time in my workday. Forced breaks are traditionally fifteen minutes of me anxiously spinning my wheels. The golden rule would stipulate that I try to make sure other people get as few breaks as possible because I sincerely usually prefer to stay in my task flow/mindset. The reality is that my coworkers appreciate the flexibility my work style affords them. I will be there taking care of shit whenever they need their unstructured time. They can count on me to provide them with the opposite of what I want.

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          It doesn’t mean doing the exact same thing, it means treating others in the way you’d like to be treated.

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      Religious components aside,

      The ethic of reciprocity is found in pretty much every society that has ever been known to exist.

      As much as one or another religion might try to claim it as exclusively their own, it is really a basic pre-requisite for any sucessful society.

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      So if they like people being jerks to them, I can be - I mean they can be jerks to people?

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    Someone who spouts, Every single thing comes back to ‘gods plan’

    You got hurt and lost a job, God’s plan…

    Lost your baby to cancer, God’s plan…

    Mom got remarried after her first husband died in an accident, God’s plan…

    Gets offensive after a while

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      If you believe in the imaginary sky fairy, then everything that happens is part of his plan, isn’t that how this belief system works? (Unless you pray, then he’ll change his plan just to suit you). Or do you get to cherry-pick which bits you believe in? Oh wait…

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        Yeah and the be good honor system that only applies to them until they are caught being heinous… then it’s God is all forgiving… but only of them… me and you are heathens and deserved his wrath. Make it make sense… you cant

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    They commit sexual harassment and assault.

    Seriously, just keep it in your pants and keep your damn hands to yourself, why is that so impossible for your lizard brain to comprehend?

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      Being a registered Republican doesn’t even necessarily mean agreeing with them. In my state, registering as a Republican allows you to vote in the Republican primaries. Regardless of who wins that, the Republican is likely to win in the general election.

      Registering as a Republican gives me the most opportunity to elect the least shitty candidate.

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    I was a latchkey kid with early onset major depression.

    I developed my moral compass when in my thirties I realized I was ignorant and my father was defending extrajudicial detention and torture of POWs by the United States. (That was the sort of thing masterminds did in movies to show they were evil, so WTF, America?)

    Since then, after considerable deep dives, I’ve come to the conclusion that no one is raise right, that the industrial age decimated the extended family in which kids were raised by a community of adults, and parents weren’t driven to exhaustion by work.

    Mental illness and abuse in the developed world is intergenerational. My parents are mad as hatters, but they didn’t have a chance. And their parents (The Greatest Generation) were traumatized. One was a WWII sniper with 30+ kills and ghosts in his eyes.

    The human species is flying by the seat of its pants. We’re in uncharted territory. It’s not possible to raise kids right so much as with more or less functionality, which is not the same as capacity to cope.

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    They use violent language frequently.

    Had a manager that said in a meeting, “Looks like I’ll have to start taking employees to the back and shooting them in the head.”

    This was over his employees not performing.

    Joke or not… wtf.

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      YES. I play online games, and there’s one guy that I played with a little bit that routinely refers to in-game fighting as rape, gangbang, and other violent sexual imagry. He recently started making these comments while trying to hit on one girl we play with, and it just feels so wrong.

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    When they interrupt and talk over the top of people. They should have been taught not to do that as a child.

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          Turn-taking behaviors also differ from one language community to another.

          In some social contexts it’s expected that you wait for the other person to finish, pause and think, and only then respond. In other contexts, that’s an “awkward silence” and indicates that the other person said something so bad or weird that you don’t know how to answer.

          Likewise, finishing someone’s sentence if they hesitate is sometimes as a sign of close intimacy and sometimes a sign of extreme disrespect — it depends on the social context and personal preference. (And on whether you get it right.)

          These are things that all language users do learn; some people have more trouble with them than others, and have to learn them as explicit rules rather than just picking them up “naturally” as part of language acquisition.

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        Or simple social isolation. This may be from factors they do not control. Really, a lot of these types of issues can be solved by looking up Maslow’s Hierarchy and plotting out what levels and pieces are missing. There are people like myself that have physical limitations and these can limit the person’s access to a more healthy situation.

        There are people that have narcissistic issues that may drive this kind of thing, but a lot of the time it is due to social isolation. Once you realize this, it may help you empathize more, or maybe even help someone.

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          Sure, but don’t you think talking over other people still isn’t appropriate to do? No matter what condition/ reasons you have for doing so, I think if you were “raised right” you would refrain from doing so, or at least catch yourself be apologetic about it. We can be understanding and empathetic and can still acknowledge it isn’t the right thing to do.

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            When autism or trauma comes into the equation, you might watch yourself as words spill out of your mouth. You have time to think ‘Oh no, I did an unsocial thing again.’ as you try and make yourself shut up in a somewhat gracious way, which in reality will seem more like a talking robot running out of battery power mid-sentence. Other people are doing their best to ignore you and your hopeless blabbermouth. Yay, it’s socializing time.

            I’ve had people doubt my autism self diagnosis before witnessing me trying to behave like a human being in a group setting. They usually don’t question it after.

            So, going on about how it’s still inappropriate is a little like telling a person in a wheelchair how it’s inappropriate to remain sitting in some situations. They are probable aware and yet they can’t really change much about the way they function?