In-person interviews are a lot, especially at 9am on a Monday. But I’m now done. Early slots are worth it.
I think it went pretty well. We’ll see.
Best of luck. They feel so odd to do now, it’s hard to believe they used to be the norm.
I know. What do you mean, I need to put on shoes? Not to mention drive somewhere?
🤞
they’d better be offering a coffee to go with the interview!
Good luck!
Fingers crossed mate
Why is it that there’s always something out of balance. If it’s not work life then it’s health or money. When they are all broken then it feels hopeless
Oh man I hear you. Good health, finances in order, work bearable. Pick two.
The google tells me that’s called a project management triangle
I’m guilty of this kind of thinking too. Been recently starting to realize the balance isnt how things feel to us, its our ability to “ride the waves” so to speak, and you can find balance wherever you look even if you may not like how it feels.
Not sure I fully believe that myself just yet, but the more I explore it the more it seems like there might be something to it.
I’m perfectly balanced. All three suck equally! 😀
(Kidding, I am grateful for what I do have)
I feel exactly the same way damn
Happy monday erybody :(
Happy Monday to you too.
oof. Advertised for a junior/entry level position in my team (academic research), got 74 applications, many with PhDs. Rough.
I know someone who had this problem about 15 years ago when she tried to get an entry level job. Her PhD made her a less attractive candidate because she was over qualified and employers didn’t trust she’d stick it out. But, she couldn’t apply for senior positions because she didn’t have enough experience.
It was the worst Catch-22. A very difficult period for her.
this is a difficulty for people who go straight from undergrad to PhD. It can also be a slight warning sign (but absolutely not always) if a phd grad has no experience at all, because usually phd students need to supplement their scholarship/RTP, and supportive supervisors will give good students a boost with some casual work to give them experience/time on the books.
But yes - I often encourage students to get some experience, one way or another, while studying. Often, the type who go straight from one degree to the next are precisely the type who worry that taking a few hours out to do paid work each week will negatively impact their academic performance, etc, and they need to be gently reminded that a well rounded application is stronger than a straight H1 student who has never seen or done anything!
I feel like some of this is definitely cultural - where I grew up and went to school, I would’ve DEARLY loved to hear this advice:
a well rounded application is stronger than a straight H1 student who has never seen or done anything
It was always grades above all else because the system there rewarded that. Was a hard lesson in my own undergrad days and I’m lucky some place gave me a chance in my second year despite hardly any work experience prior. For all the (perhaps partially justified) accusations of mediocrity or lack of rigour in Australian academia, or anti-intellectualism in Australia more generally, I’m very very grateful for the relative sense of groundedness that’s encouraged over here.
The woman buying my sewing machine just picked it up. She did not accidentally overpay me by thousands of dollars. I guess the dream was not prophetic.
oh well
After hearing of the last psychologist I found not taking new clients, I went through the whole process of finding another one with a trustworthy and empathetic face (yes I judge people entirely off of their face. Don’t @ me), getting a new MHCP, getting a new referral, making another appointment, trying to organise for the session to be paid in advance again. I’m finally done, and have found one that seems fine. I hope it works out. I don’t want to have to find yet another one
Don’t feel bad about choosing a nice face. Bedside manner is so important.
Imma relate my experience here and it was quite self revelatory at the time.
I had an injured shoulder, from an assault, and was referred to a surgeon for diagnosis and treatment. He was very kind and friendly and reassuring. Even when we had to demonstrate the actions that caused the injury I felt safe.
Later in the week I had to get some xrays. The technician was very professional and he had a neutral face. I was triggered and had a panic attack.
Attackers have uncaring or neutral faces.
later I was thinking how my doctor put on a kind face on purpose , he knew my history and knew how to make me comfortable. The xray technician either knew and didn’t care or didn’t know how to handle my case.
I’m better now tho seeing a disinterested face always worries me. That is a face of violence.
Such a pain trying to find a psych you click with so you can make the most of therapy ugh. I’m glad you have found someone and booked and appt!! That’s awesome!
I’m not sure if you’re already doing this (apologies if you are) but you can get a certain number of counseling sessions and a security camera funded through Victims of Crime. Wish I’d remembered to tell you that earlier
I really hope it provides some help
Good idea, but I believe that they only provide support in cases of violent crime. A burglary while not home probably doesn’t classify.
I’m still a minor, so for the next 6 or so months, I’ll be able to have my sessions paid for by the department. I think the place I’ve chosen is $100 out of pocket after the MHCP Medicare rebate, but I don’t really know how that works, so that’s a them problem for now.
I’m not too sure what the plan is once I turn 18. At the moment $100 out of pocket is pushing it, but still affordable once a month, but I’m unsure how my circumstances will change. Plus the MHCP is only like 5 sessions a year or some stupidly low number. It’s one of those things I don’t think I’m going to spend much time thinking about since I have zero clue what’s going to happen
No, they provide it for stalking as well
Do what you’ve gotta do Baku, these idiots have created problems for you
I wasn’t gonna go anywhere today but I need m&ms.
Normal, peanut, crispy, mixed or one of the bullshit limited edition flavours?
(note, there are a couple of good bullshit limited edition flavours but not out at the moment or haven’t made it to Australia yet such as dark chocolate raspberry)
Peanut × 2
That’s good stuff. My usual purchase would be peanut x 1 and crispy x 1 and mix them together. Have to be in a specific mood to enjoy normal ones otherwise I’d get mixed.
bullshit
dark chocolate raspberry
I dunno that sounds delicious.
edit: I misread you said good :)
I didn’t mind the brownie ones, but they needed to be served warm, otherwise the brownie bits were like little stones. I haven’t tried any other limited edition ones
Maybe I need m&ms too. You’ve got me thinking about them.
As I was pulling out of my driveway, an evil looking Tom cat was in my backyard judging me, which is a cheek cos I don’t shit on other peoples properties.
Called out of my shift, couldn’t sleep until 4am and only for two hours.
Gonna make that GP appt today for my eye, it’s just hurting so much worse. Ugh!
Happy Monday! Lol
please go back to bed once you’ve seen the GP.
Oof, I feel this. I got a little more sleep, but only about 4. I was awoken an hour earlier than needed by a fire truck that went right past my window and seemed to linger out the front for a few seconds, and I didn’t sleep 3ish
I hope your eye is better soon
I’ve had a weirdly positive day… I mean, a little unexpected. Even though I was running late, I made good time. Even though I missed tea break, had a shortened lunch, wasn’t all that hungry and ran out of time (and verbally road raged a little on the way home), I:
- made it to a Uni appointment
- had some meaningful conversations in intervention deliveries
- made it to my extra-curricular session on time
- had some more meaningful conversations
And just all round one of those days where for a moment you feel as if you’ve woken up, are about 95% yourself and things feel somewhat good… like a distant memory.
I’m even in one my fav burger shops that is always empty and there are about 8 or so other people eating in and it feels… nice.
No guarantees for tomorrow, but I think being grateful for just even the ability to even get out of bed is underrated. ✨
I felt the good vibes rubbing off on me from your comment with how wonderful your day was! Savour the feeling, it’s totally ok if tomorrow doesn’t reach today’s heights, because it sounds like you filled your cup plenty with today 😊 (okay I say this because sometimes I feel a bit sad when the next day’s been a comedown from a Good Day. But sometimes it’s easy enough to just enjoy the Good Day for what it is)
What a bonus that your burger shop was lively tonight as well. The owner must be having a nicer than expected Monday too
so many hugs 😊🌞
Yayyy!!! Can’t wait to start a newwww work week!!! 👌👌💪🌞🌞🥳🥳
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It thinks I’m a robot 🤖
Who are you and what have you done with Force?
What ever do you mean?! I have always LOVED my job and wouldn’t quit for anything! I would do this even if they didn’t pay me!!!
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I don’t have enough sugar in my house to vaguely get pumped enough to echo that sentiment
Fuck yeah let’s do this
Hmm, how about FUCKING NO.
🐟🔥🐟🔥🐟🔥🐟🔥🐟🔥🐟!!
I have a big preso tomorrow. To about 100 attendees. I have to talk for about 10-12 mins and I’m prepared. It’s just that I get so nervous my heart starts pounding crazy fast.
My previous presos have also been in front of the same crowd but that was for like 2-3 mins as I had someone share the time but tomorrow am all alone. Which means that I need to take questions as well.
My heart rate is already high thinking of tomorrow 🤕 can someone give me some tips to calm down? Please don’t say slow breathing because it just makes it worse for me 😭
I’ve also been told I give great presos but I gaslight myself into thinking it was bad. I’ve prepared pretty well but still nervous as shit as this is the biggest one so far.
Am off to the gym now to take mind off things and just relax. I’ll go crazy otherwise
My late bloke was an excellent after dinner speaker, but got horribly nervous beforehand. To the point of vomiting with nerves. He eventually figured out how to manage his anxiety by playing cats cradle while he was waiting to be introduced to the audience. The simple repetition of the hand movements helped him through those awful minutes before he started to speak. He was fine once he got going. Zillions of vidjos on youtube on how to do it. He liked doing the apache door more than the eiffel tower or witches broom one as it was more complex and required more attention. And the evidence could be stowed in a pocket quickly when he stepped up to perform. Pre-performance anxiety is very real and can be very debilitating, but tends to evaporate once the performance starts. Hope this helps a bit.
Thank you!! I’ll look these techniques up on YouTube 😊Also sorry for your loss
A few years by now - sort of over all the hard stuff. I’m pretty sure you’ll be fine for the presentation. My personal opinion is that the harder the pre-performance stuff hits, the better the actual performance. Which sounds kinda weird but this is what I’ve observed. Would also recommend not ignoring the post performance stuff. Like having a mental list of things to do immediately after you’ve finished - from packing up the equipment to organising notes etc. This really helps conquer the jitters.
You’re nervous because you know you are good and don’t want to disappoint. And you’re nervous because you’re doing a good thing that you want to do. So being nervous isn’t such a bad thing. The adrenaline helps with performance too.
So many hugs. You can do this. We’re so proud of you. 🌞😘🌞😘🌞
Thank you ❤️🥺
we believe in you 😘
I like to get there early so I have time for a last stress poo. Acute stress goes to my bowels, sorry. And to check out the venue and stuff.
Also you can overheat a bit when you’re in a stressful situation, and that feeling of being too hot makes the stress worse. If you can lose a layer or two it can help.
You’ll be awesome.
Fell asleep for a bit, but have a GP appt tomorrow morning. I’m trying not to get overly anxious about this, because it’s probably nothing, but its such a different pain than I am used to.
Like, sharp, and then achey, and sharp if I rub my eyes (which I do without thinking). I have no idea what I could have done to it, like it’s a weird spot. Just under my right eye, where the orbital hole ends, on my cheekbone. I know I keep posting, but I’m anxious ugh!!!
You’re seeing a doctor. In the meantime don’t touch and use warm compresses for comfort.
So many hugs
Maybe it’s a pimple on the inside of your eyelid or something? Or a subcutaneous ingrown hair or some such
Maybe? Theres nothing on the skin, no marks, no bruise or discolouration. No lump I can feel underneath, just the top of my cheekbone/orbital.
Hopefully it is just a stupid zit. I can deal with that.
no lump is a good sign, rules out a lot of shit. Could be a minute scratch, the area under your eyes is ridiculously tender
Could be a stye, it seems to be the season.
Could be nerve pain, maybe even referred from TMJ or a tooth? Best of luck, hope you can get checked soon
I do grind my teeth, I’m stressed it’s a fracture. It’s probably nothing though lol
Man I love my cat. She’s just a big old teddy bear and a sweetheart. Even when she’s a bit spoiled it’s cute
tried to book a camping trip for cup day weekend. Limited to “glamping” (ie: power and a hot shower) cause I was gonna bring the little fella, but no joy. Everythings booked out. Prom, Eildon, Bright, Philip Island, all totally booked out. The fact that it’s still months away and its booked out blows my mind.
Some nice glamping further inland - try Macedon, Mt Erica, Walhalla, Maldon, Wedderburn, or if you are willing to drive - Mt Buffalo, Beechworth maybe Rutherglen. The Grampians and Otways will probably be booked out too, but there’s Horsham fairly closeish to the Little Desert National Park, and Rainbow near Hattah-Kulkyne. Off the beaten track may be your friend here.
EDIT: maybe farm stays? The little tacker will loooove that but might be a bit young.
yeah the drives kind of the hurdle. Trying to keep it under 3 hours. The mrs said last time he went to the prom the drive was the biggest hurdle. Sadly a bit young for farm stays.
Mt erica or Walhalla might still be a go - under 2 hours from the SE suburbs.
Seems like you need to book popular areas for cup day by Easter these days. More people competing for the same spots. One of these days they might introduce a timed ballot system or something