For context I’m not out to anyone and I still boymode (6months HRT)

I was at a party in a bar with friends 1 month ago, we took pictures together and posted them in a discord server, immediately a dude “V” asked if I was a real femboy. So now I have people asking me about it and I didn’t reply.

Yesterday I had an eyelid surgery and I sent a picture in the group with my eye patch just for fun and V immediately went “yeah you’re 100% a femboy I was certain of it” (in another language) and people AGREED???!!

I don’t know what to do, on one hand I want to be a woman not a boy or a man, but on the other, since I probably won’t pass until I get FFS I might as well say I am a femboy in the meantime, this way I can pretend to be a man and still wear what I want?

I’m not sure I would get treated better than if I was out as a trans woman. Feminine men get a lot of shit. But femboys seem to be trendy enough to be seen as weirdly cool. Idk…

  • Chloë (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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    4 months ago

    Try not to compare yourself to ppl, besides I don’t look as fem as you think I do I still get violently SIIIIR’d.

    The femboy thing is likely because:

    • I wear nail polish all the time
    • I voice train all the time so my voice is relatively high pitched.
    • I epilate everything
    • I know and meet a lot of people it’s kinda bound to happen in those circumstances.

    I will admit that HRT did do it’s job, but before V said anything no one told me I looked fem.

    There is also the possibility that your friends don’t see you changing, if you knew them pre transition and still see them regularly they might not notice, but if someone new is brought into the equation then it might happen. You’re a trans woman even if you don’t pass you’re still miles more feminine than any other cis dude around you!💜