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  • So take everything I say as a sample size of 1. I am autistic and have CPTSD from childhood neglect.

    Yeah it’s true. But to me it’s not a good thing. It’s that your standards go to shit! I’ve said my whole life that parents don’t seem happier with kids they seem so utterly broken that they are able to celebrate really basic things.

    You become thankful for the small things because the big things are gone. You choose to love X because Y is not an option any more etc.

    There are chemical processes that make you all lovey dovey for your kid for sure, but to be honest… Definitely not enough. I remember in the first year thinking how did we survive evolutionarily? I would def without a solid moral compass have left this thing in a cave and walked away so many times! 😂

    In short, before I had kids I could do what I want, when I wanted, I had friends, I saw my family, I had more money, I could spend time on personal development, I could take a couple of hours to breathe and reset my nervous system if needed, etc. For years those things stop existing and they mostly will not be the same again for at least a decade or so… Even then I don’t know. It’s genuinely a horrific decision in so many ways.

    To be honest I’m not entirely sure the whole “your mind clicks a different way” isn’t just a trauma response 😅

    Anyways, I know I’m an outlier. But it’s hard for me to really believe folks that speak SO positively of it… I just don’t see it in their lives, they also look like they have given up so much for so little.






  • Just my personal opinion but I think while you are right - a lot of the time it’s almost coincidental that these two factors overlap.

    I say that because I think a huge factor is an underlying psychological need to feel powerful and in control. So in their actions they target those who it is easy to feel powerful over. But in their posturing they seek positions that are viewed as powerful.

    It’s all a somewhat normal biological drive that healthy people grow through and integrate into their psyche while going on to add things like empathy. For these people that part of their development remains at that of a tiny child. Maybe genetic, maybe trauma, whatever it is they need help - and help far away from the vulnerable and positions of power so people can remain safe until they can (if it’s possible - and I’m not sure it is always) heal.

    To be clear - nothing about these people’s actions is OK, they are terrible people. But I do think we should be trying to figure out more why so many of them end up in powerful positions and what we can do about it, is there early interventions we could be putting in place etc. to catch these people and head off their harm at the pass.






  • As much as people seem to hate her I have to say I think she was a fabulous leader. Especially given she ran a country with very little power and finances given the puppet strings that ran from westminster. People go on and on about how bad the SNP were but the simple fact is Scotland declined a LOT slower than England and Wales did in that time because of their leadership.

    She was fierce, passionate, committed and measured. It is unfortunately rare in the world today to have a leader that is worthy of respect on the public stage. Next to folks like Boris and Trump she was a powerhouse.



  • I’ve been checking this site on and off from Europe for about a month. Can someone who knows more than me explain the expected timeline for what remains?

    I feel like it jumped up into the mid 30%s after only a month or so and then stagnated for weeks.

    Now it seems to have jumped again. But I guess I’m wondering at what sort of percentage does everything go to shit (not that it isn’t already!). Are there points where there is a no turning back or civil war becomes inevitable, etc.? Or does it hit a certain percentage where it will jump to 100% overnight due to certain protections being removed.

    I guess I’m struggling to wrap my head around what I’m seeing, what it looks like between 40% and 100% and how quickly this might happen?

    Even a guide somewhere on the net that breaks it down would be great.







  • This looks great. Thanks so much for your work on this and sharing with us.

    What in your opinion sets your software apart from the other options you mention?

    I have recently setup dockers for plex, immich, nextcloud and paperlessngx but have yet to look at longterm maintenence inc. things like auto updates (I know to avoid on immich).

    As someone who prob knows the options inside and out - would you recommend your option to this relative newbie or do you think one of the other options might be a better place to start?