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Cake day: July 12th, 2023

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  • I do have this problem with the monitor I hook up to my laptop for gaming occasionally. It’s looser because it gets plugged and unplugged more commonly and can occasionally slip out of I move my laptop to my lap so I can lean back when my back starts to ache.

    But this is not a common situation I think












  • I completely agree that you need to communicate. But that is outside the issue posed by the previous poster who said that it’s too emotionally taxing to just listen when you want to problem solve. Their comment implies that the conversation has been had, they know their partner just needs to vent, but being the listener their partner needs will cause “compassion fatigue”

    So I attempted to rephrase it so that the “rational problem solver” could satisfy their “need to problem solve in contradiction to what their partner needs” by presenting it in a way that listening, is in fact the solution, to the problem at hand.


  • The problem is 9 times out of 10, your problem solving won’t help because they’ve already thought of the fix or you don’t have enough of the nuance involved to offer a viable solution. So to insist on offering, means that your partner now has to balance your ego and how to tell you “yeah I know” or why your idea won’t work.

    Top the rational thinker, the problem is “I need to vent my emotions in a healthy manner” and the rational solution is “listen” and if the problem transitions from “I need to vent” to “I need help” then you can work on a solution together.








  • The circumstances of that bill are weird af too.

    They gave democrats no time to read it, and barely any time to get to the hill for the vote on the first place. Arguably, the only reason they voted for it at all is because of the congressman who pulled the fire alarm, giving dems time to read and see it was a reasonable bill.

    But, if the dems hadn’t had time to read the bill, they likely would’ve voted against it on the premise of not voting on something they don’t understand hasn’t read, and someone they inherently don’t trust presented under shadycircumstances. Then McCarthy would’ve had a shutdown like Gaetz wanted, but, one he could’ve blamed on the dems, for not voting for this very reasonable extension bill.