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Cake day: December 7th, 2023

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  • That sucks.
    I don’t know if this is a thing anymore but “back in my day” your friends/family/coworkers/roommates would try to hook you up with other people that they know are single and might be a good match. Especially the older ladies in your life, that was like their mission in life. Aside from that, you might ask someone who runs in overlapping circles that you’ve seen a few times if they want to get coffee or lunch.

    The closest thing to Tinder-type dating would have been “cruising” on a Friday and Saturday night, driving up and down the Main Street of your town, hanging out in parking lots to talk and make plans for the night. Even then, you would ask “where do/did you go to school” and “do you know ____” “are you related to” type questions to establish your “degrees of Kevin Bacon” relationship in the social network.

    So there was no need to date total strangers. That would be considered kinda weird and suspicious, which is why online dating was heavily stigmatized in the late 90’s/early 2000’s. I went on a few match.com and eharmony dates but kept it secret, telling only my closest friends, out of shame. They thought I was crazy, meeting up with strangers like that.

    A few horny guys would try to chat up every random stranger and it occasionally paid off for them, but that wasn’t really normal behavior.

    I think we’re all more mobile now, moving from city to city for work, so those networks are probably shattered for most people.

    I feel so incredibly lucky that I dodged the dating app bullet, it seems awful for guys to try and compete in that space. And for women, having creepy dudes be creepy with no repercussions, with no way to tell their mother/aunt/sister to smack some sense into them… not great.


    1. There are plenty of tiny coffee places (and other small businesses) near me where the owner is there all day, every day with just one or two employees. You’ll get to know them if you want to. You might also bump into them around town. If they suck, patronize a different place.

    2. Theoretically, most of the money that I spend there stays in town, helping to keep other businesses and families going. They probably sponsor the local animal shelter or little league team. I like that.

    3. I’ve worked in small businesses and corporate America. In my experience corporate America always sucks, small business only sometimes suck. I don’t like supporting large corporations and especially not their admin and C-suite. Those vampires are why the wealth gap is growing so quickly.

    4. Corporate food is boring.

    5. Some people argue that all of the transportation involved in moving around product and people for multi-national corporations is worse for the environment. I don’t care about that personally but it seems like a reasonable conclusion.



  • In the US, all metal tubes/pipes/stock for metal-working related tasks (welding, plumbing, structural stuff) comes in 20ft sections. The three options that I know of for transporting them are: trailer, box truck or roof rack.
    A 22foot truck with roof rack would be perfect for someone who works with metal e.g. a plumber. A smaller truck would work but then you’ve got a bunch of pipes hanging off like you’re in a jousting tournament.


  • I’m not touching the original question with a 10ft pole but…

    “Where’s the Line?” Counterpoint: you’re parachuting out of the sky onto an island. There’s a sandy beach on your left and an ocean with 20 ft waves pounding on your right. The exact line between the ocean and the sand is undefinable. I can still easily choose the sandy side, because drowning sucks.

    “Get banged by creepy old dude for $1” is definitely the water, “get banged by creepy old dude for $10million+” is definitely the beach.

    “Not getting propositioned by creepy old guy” is “not riding in homemade airplanes” maybe? 🤷‍♂️


  • For whatever it’s worth, I’ve been playing a lot for ~8 years on various iPhones and I very rarely have this problem. It only happens in pretty extreme circumstances: in the shower if water splashes on the screen and I don’t dry it off, if I’ve been dremeling metal that day (even invisible amounts of metal dust on the screen totally screw up the sensitivity), or I’m very drunk and too lazy to zoom in for important stuff.

    Maybe you know why these things are happening to you (bumpy car rides? playing in the pool?, shaky hands?), if so disregard me. If not, it’s odd that this is happening to you so often.

    Edit: now that I think about it, the attack button disappearing after the enemy is dead does piss me off. I’ll got tap-tap-tap-tap to kill them and then it runs me somewhere weird in the bottom right corner. I tend to avoid the button entirely or zoom out so the attack button is above an unexplored area if I’m farming.



  • I agree, I pretty much won’t do “Contact Us for Pricing” unless it’s construction work or something, but man, have you seen the Uhaul moving box in person?
    It’s a wooden pallet with wobbly plywood walls and a tarp on it. It looks like something you’d see in a homeless camp.
    I’d do it again but damn, the price definitely matches the quality.



  • WelcomeBear@lemmy.worldtoPolitical Memes@lemmy.worldWhat a benevolent lord!
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    Taxes, maintenance, a management company but probably most of all to interest on the insanely large loan you took out to get it. We “bought” a house with a 30 year loan and if we were to rent it out right now at market rate, there would be no profit. We would probably take a small loss other than the opportunity to hold the property hoping that the price of housing continues to rise. It hasn’t risen since we bought the house a couple of years ago. If you’re old enough to remember 2008, then you also know that it doesn’t always go up. Sometimes it goes down pretty dramatically and you’re left holding the bag.

    If the house sits empty between tenants, those costs don’t go away. So for me, in my one bathroom house, that would be $2,400 a month (not including maintenance.) Where is that money gonna come from? I don’t have it because I’m paying rent somewhere else to try and make more money to dig my way out of this hole in this hypothetical situation.

    So why not sell? To sell it, we have to pay 6% to real estate agents. If we actually owned the house, not just a massive soul-crushing loan, fine. But we don’t. So that 6% is a SHITLOAD of money when you borrowed all of it besides the 15% down payment that was two people’s life savings plus begging for more from relatives. So selling means half your combined life savings and the money you begged from relatives, poof gone.

    Most people have a mortgage like this and amortized interest rates mean that in the beginning, 90% of the money you give the mortgage company goes straight to interest because you pay off 30 year’s worth of interest up front so that they’re sure they get their profit (and because paying the full 5% interest on a note that big every year would be impossible for most people.)

    People who bought recently, have a mortgage and a single home that they rent out are not making any profit in areas with expensive housing. It’s not like houses are cheap to “buy” in the first place. They get you good.

    Why buy at all then? Because I don’t like landlords telling me what I can and can’t do. So much so that I gambled it all on “buying” a place.






  • WelcomeBear@lemmy.worldtotumblr@lemmy.worldBacon PSA
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    They’re doing it wrong.
    The secret is cheap bacon.
    So paper-thin that they would be embarrassed to sell it at the regular grocery store. We’re talking Family Dollar, so-thin-it’s-transparent, deceptively packaged bacon.

    CornKing is an example of a pretty thin bacon and it’s available at places like Wal-Mart

    If you don’t want that, then pre-cook the bacon in the microwave or oven on very low heat until it’s basically ham, then use that to wrap with.



  • WelcomeBear@lemmy.worldtoMemes@lemmy.mlSpices too
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    Cooked onions, I suppose I’d agree. They’re just kinda mushy. Raw onions on the other hand have a great crunchy texture to me.

    Thick sliced raw onion rings on burgers fluffs the whole thing up a bit and adds some airy crunch.

    They add a nice crunchy texture to Greek salad as well.

    Cut into lengthwise strips, they’re similarly fun in stir-fry if you don’t cook them too long.

    Diced on top of a tostada or taco or bagel with cream cheese and lox, they add a little crunchy something but admittedly this could be also be achieved with pretty much anything not-squishy.


  • Texas isn’t some dystopian hellscape like your examples, nor will it become one in our lifetime.
    It’s just another example of a gerrymandered state with loud-mouthed shitheads riling their base up and clinging to power despite their declining poll numbers.
    47% of Texan voters chose Biden in 2020, 52% voted Trump. Meanwhile in California it went 64% Biden, 34% Trump. Not that different. Also interesting to note, 6 million people voted for Trump in California, while only 5.9 million people voted for Trump in Texas. Seems like California has a bigger problem than Texas, maybe we should give them to Mexico or have them secede or whatever as well?

    Texas has a good chance of being blue in our lifetime as cities grow in population and the demographic continues to skew… younger and less “white.”
    Texas is trending blue Source

    Edit to add: let’s say for fun that your Gaza/Hmong/Rhohingya comparison is true and a liberal holocaust is coming. One stereotype about Texans that actually is true is that most of us (left and right, urban and rural) own guns and generally like guns for sport, hunting, defense, etc. Attempting a liberal holocaust in a densely populated, urban environment full of gun fanciers that don’t like authority would not go well for the invaders.


  • What do you think is happening in Texas?!?!
    You sound like my in-laws talking about Portland as if it’s constantly on fire with ANTIFA checkpoints throughout the city.
    Cities in Texas (where most people live) are the same as every other city in America, overpriced housing, tech bros, craft breweries, overpriced coffee, tapas bars, suburbs filled with church-going pearl-clutchers. It’s literally the same exact shit with slightly different food and ethnic background of blue collar workers.
    The rural areas are significantly more fucked up, economically (and I would argue socially) but that’s true of absolutely every blue state. Go to rural California, Oregon, Washington and you have the EXACT same people as rural Texas.
    Go to LA, NYC, SF, Portland and you have literally the same people as Austin, Dallas, Houston, because a lot of people you meet are from those cities.