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Been a bit fucked.
My wife and I have had to drop about $2k in unexpected car maintenance bringing us to one car for a week and a half, we had a miscarriage Tuesday night, and then our toddler had a meltdown at a diner when we tried to take a night off from cooking.
Her obgyn told us to take a month off from trying for a kid and we have enough squirrelled away in savings, so we are going to get through this. Just a tough week, and I’m hoping next week goes smoother for us.
I’d go the route of archive and revisit if you feel you can some number of years from now. Most of my friend group growing up hated getting photographed, so I don’t have a huge portfolio. That said now that I am married and have started to have kids it is nice to be able to look at photos with my partner.
One of my close friends I’ve known since grade school had started HRT within the last year or so. Every now and then she sends selfies of where she is at and how far she came from. For her the old pictures appear to be a point of pride, but I can’t say how many she might have gotten rid privately. Not my place to pry.
I still hate a number of photos from when I had less exposure to the world, but a good number of photos are of a happy kid raising geese or playing with their cousins.
From my own experience I’d say I regret deleting/destroying some photos, and past me had been too critical of myself to the point that a lot of memories were never documented. That said some photos are just so opposed to who I am now that they did not justify being preserved any longer.
I always ended up wanting to use plastic minis to avoid situations like this.
I’ve seen some decent discussions over on https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/trans
You can have perks that make you more flirty to males or females and offer benefits to damage.
By taking both of these perks you become stronger at fighting anyone the game identifies as male or female.
I dig the art style used by the artist.
Yeah, she put the work in and had great results.
She had also been transitioning for some time before she came out, so you got to keep in mind there are years of progress between the pre and out video.
You start to run into the trope conservation of ninjutsu. Where a single ninja is a terrible threat, but a group of them splits the power of the single threat evenly.
Nothing too complicated. Just a blouse and some jeans this morning.
I’ve found this to be pretty comfortable, but I’m not a chesty individual.
https://www.torrid.com/product/low-impact-wireless-cross-front-active-sports-bra/41920155.html
Also if you got the money to spare a wet dry vacuum is a life saver when your kid barfs I the middle of the night.
Ours got daily use for the various messes the kid and cats would make.
We just celebrated nonbinary parents day for me yesterday in our household.
Although my parents are conservative they did not always meet typical gender roles. My mom was more nurturing and also the breadwinner/disciplinarian of the household. My dad did more help with my schoolwork, did a lot to show me how to garden/cook, and helped me to really enjoy reading. Both taught me about the value of good work ethics, how to use a chainsaw, and how to have a sense of humor.
The biggest takeaway that I have though is that religious ideology and toxic masculinity caused my dad to have a more distant relationship with me than we could have had. Even now I struggle to have a conversation longer than 5 minutes with him on the phone, but my mom keeps telling me how much he likes to talk to me and how much it means to him when I visit.
My kid is a bit older than 2 and a half, and he tends to view me as the comfort parent because I’m the parent with enough upper body strength to still hold him for an hour or longer. He also likes to brush my hair after a shower and do gardening/composting with me. I also tend to be the goofier parent and am enthusiastic during play time.
My wife does more reading and baking with him. They make up songs together and she loves to try to get him to think critically about the world. My wife also loves to talk with family and friends on the phone, so she involves him in those conversations and works to plan playdates and other activities.
Ultimately being a parent to me means listening to my kids needs, educating him on a number of topics, and as needed being an authority figure that helps keep him inline and well mannered. No one is going to be perfect at it and what will work for one kid might not work for the next.
My wife and I just finished celebrating our 5 year anniversary. Each year we write letters to each other and plan to open them at every 5 year increments.
Getting to read the wedding night and 4 years worth of anniversary letters was reaffirming as hell. To hear that I was accepted when exploring and the confidence she saw me building brought me to tears.
I’m sick as a dog and my back is sore from the bed at the inn we stayed in, but I am the happiest I’ve felt in years.
I think it is important to talk with a professional about this moving forward. Based on your description this sounds more like it will be to help with processing things after the dust settles though.
I have family that I am still not out with, and for those that would be unaccepting they are either not worth telling or communicating with at all. I come from a big family, so I’ve had to learn to cut folks out that are dangerous (drug addiction and prone to acts of violence) or toxic (verbally abusive, manipulative, etc) over the years.
The family members that felt the hardest to loose were my grandmother and my aunt/godmother. We didn’t agree on a lot politically or religiously, but they were both such kind people through their lives. My aunt passed suddenly, so there was no chance to wrap things up or say goodbye. My grandmother passed from cancer and it was a lot slower. By the time we knew she wouldn’t make it out of the hospital she was not the same person that went in, and generally was frustrated to have so many people saying goodbye.
Ultimately I still swing by both their graves to leave flowers and to talk at them. Life ending is messy and far from ideal
In time though regardless of the actions you take I’d recommend remembering how you feel now and show compassion and patience for yourself and those around you.
What about adding the poll temporarily to the community resources section?
That way it is not just in everyone’s feed, and it takes a little more efforty to participate. I’m active here, but I found this community through cross instance bleedover.
Bit sus that it went from a generic invite to a religious event after one text.
Sorry to hear your family are being buttheads. They at the least did you the favor of forecasting that they were going to be a buzz kill to hangout with.
They look to have some nice standard pieces that would make a good wardrobe foundation. Their men’s stuff looks pretty good too.
Thanks for the find.
I’ll scope them out, but I am state side at this point in my life.