• Socsa@sh.itjust.works
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    6 months ago

    I have never been excluded from truth seeking conversations because I am cis. Everyone likes an ally. Some people actually like them a little too much in my experience.

    If you are in a queer safe space you should treat it like you are at your in-laws house. You don’t need to be expressing every diverging opinion or challenging every cultural assumption. In my experience, if you are being met with hostility, it’s because you are projecting it.

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      6 months ago

      I have never been excluded from truth seeking conversations because I am cis.

      Congrats. Unfortunately, it has not been my experience.

      if you are being met with hostility, it’s because you are projecting it.

      I honestly don’t think I am but it is something that I could ask if it happens again.

      In my past experiences where my questions or disagreements, etc have been met with hostility, the reason seems to be that if I don’t 100% agree with what the other person is saying, it’s simply because I’m a straight white man and don’t know any better. Which, as you may guess, doesn’t lead to a very productive discussion.