• RGB3x3@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    When is the body positivity movement going to acknowledge that men who have been circumcised are not broken? So much toxicity around this online. Every time this comes up, it’s just a bunch of people shaming guys who have been circumcised.

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        6 months ago

        There’s constant slurs and jokes being thrown our waynat our expense. It’s a daily aspect of our lives.

        “Cut that out”

        “are you getting snippy with me?”

        “I’m afraid we’ll have to cut our time short”

        You probably don’t notice it unless you’ve been circumcised yourself.

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          6 months ago

          I assume there’s more context than just the statements. If someone randomly happens to use the word cut or snippy in a sentence, I don’t think that means they are making fun of a circumcision.

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            6 months ago

            Would you say the same thing to a black person who just opened up about racism they’ve experienced?

            You’re attempting to gaslight every circumcised male into believing it’s all in our heads.

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              6 months ago

              My dude, I’m circumcised.

              I don’t get out much, is this a thing that happens a lot? I guess I don’t openly declare I’m circumcised to my social group. So there’s no way that they would know. But if they did would they make that a big deal? I have a hard time imagining that they would even care.

              Are you sure this is a societal problem and not a friend group problem?

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                6 months ago

                The other day I saw my grocery store advertising that they were ‘slashing prices on sausages’. You’re telling me that’s not intentional?

                Just a coincidence I’m sure 😒

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                  6 months ago

                  I think it comes down to whether or not there is negative stigma with being circumcised.

                  We all have to set our own bar on this one, from my perspective, I don’t see that society really cares if a person is cut or uncut.

                  I would say that if this is causing problems for your life, then you should consider seeking therapy. Even if it turns out that society is gunning for you, getting help can make it easier to live in that society.

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      6 months ago

      We arent shaming the guys but the parents. Being circuncised is not a condition that just happened. Its shitty parents mutilating their babies because they think it looks better.

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        6 months ago

        I strongly disagree. I did a not have shitty parents; they are wonderful.

        It was misinformation at the time. I HIGHLY DOUBT they were standing there looking at me thinking “his dick will look better without that extra piece of skin when he’s older”.

        Everyone has done something wrong due to misinformation with long lasting repercussions.

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          6 months ago

          it can be done for health reasons, this is usually done later, after the fact. But i’m going to hedge a bet that the rate of circumcisions vastly over blows the rate of medically needed circumcisions.

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          6 months ago

          There’s more intersex people, by magnitudes, than male children needing a circumcision for medical reasons. Least of all before puberty. Most of the time phymosis vanishes with mechanical stimulation alone, if it doesn’t then in all but a vanishingly small number of cases some testosterone salve does the rest.

          You’d be much better advised advocating for masturbators (as in pocket pussy) over bare hands, they’re mechanically superior not just when it comes to the foreskin but also when it comes to bad habits such as edging rope. I thought they had sex ed in Canada but apparently it’s just as bad as in the US.

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      6 months ago

      Definitely don’t want to shame you. I myself was circumcised but I believe it is a complex issue, but down to brass tacks it is actually male genital mutilation.