Dating/romantic relationships. I usually manage to uncover multiple deal breakers on the first date, and I’m pretty sure that’s more of a “me” problem, than a problem with the type of people I date.
Oh man, I’ve really slowed down my dating, so it’s hard to remember many of them. I know some of these are actually reasonable, but others are just me looking for faults/expecting perfection:
Is a night owl
Works in a field that requires odd hours
Isn’t 100% against having kids (most recent one said they didn’t mind either way, which makes me worried they’ll eventually realize they want kids)
Has children, even if they’re already adults
Laughs weird
Previously married (most recent one lost their previous partner to cancer a few years ago)
Not regularly physically active
Has dietary restrictions/allergies
Doesn’t drink alcohol ever
Obvious political differences
Doesn’t like cats and/or my cats are scared of them
Has a dog, especially if it’s small and/or if they take it everywhere
Thanks for the candid answer. I understand the urge to nitpick. Although, for the life of me I can’t understand how having a dog could be a negative. I feel like at worst that would just be a neutral? I’m guessing you’re not a dog person?
In the short term maybe, but there’s definitely some areas where things become more affordable when you have two incomes contributing. Housing is a big one, and apparently also taxes.
Dating/romantic relationships. I usually manage to uncover multiple deal breakers on the first date, and I’m pretty sure that’s more of a “me” problem, than a problem with the type of people I date.
It could be that you’re just really efficient.
I have BPD, which means that the longer I know someone, the more faults I find and the more I start to go from liking them to hating them.
It is very much a “me” problem, but one that has no solution yet. 😮💨
Out of curiosity, what are some examples of what you would consider to be dealbreakers?
Oh man, I’ve really slowed down my dating, so it’s hard to remember many of them. I know some of these are actually reasonable, but others are just me looking for faults/expecting perfection:
Thanks for the candid answer. I understand the urge to nitpick. Although, for the life of me I can’t understand how having a dog could be a negative. I feel like at worst that would just be a neutral? I’m guessing you’re not a dog person?
Sounds like a super power to saving money!
In the short term maybe, but there’s definitely some areas where things become more affordable when you have two incomes contributing. Housing is a big one, and apparently also taxes.
Recent article about that: https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/24055481/single-benefits-married-couple-taxes-money