Then you might be overwhelming the conversation and not letting people get a word in when you do talk.
I think it’s helpful to focus on listening more and putting your attention on others instead of thinking “am I not talking enough? What should I say? Ok I’m going to say this”. That leads to you doing a monologue instead of engaging in the conversation. If you focus more on listening and not worrying about your part in the conversation then you’ll find things to comment on more naturally.
I was told that i talked too little and that i talked too much by the same person at different times
Then you might be overwhelming the conversation and not letting people get a word in when you do talk.
I think it’s helpful to focus on listening more and putting your attention on others instead of thinking “am I not talking enough? What should I say? Ok I’m going to say this”. That leads to you doing a monologue instead of engaging in the conversation. If you focus more on listening and not worrying about your part in the conversation then you’ll find things to comment on more naturally.