A follow up from my older asklemmy post, saying goodbye to a teacher who helped me a lot through my stuff, was thinking maybe chocolate, but one of the dudes said that it’s not a very good idea, I was thinking maybe a perfume/cologne? What do you guys suggest? She is in probably in her early 20s if it helps, and I am in senior high, damn this is getting weirder and weirder, I just want to run away lol
A greeting card with a note about how she helped you.
Material gifts will get used up and thrown out over time. But she’ll collect notes and letters from her students over the years, and they will help remind her why she’s teaching.
This, and if you really really wanna put a monetary gift in there, get them a gift card for coffee(go local fuck Starbucks) or honestly somewhere like target that sells school supplies. It’s a bit orphan crushing machine but they may really appreciate the extra cash for supplies.
A fountain pen or a nice moleskin notebook with a note saying how her lessons will help you in your future life.
I think a perfume is too personal and might come out as a romantic gesture (and difficult to choose if you don’t know what she likes anyway).
A nice fountain pen seems like a good idea, Thanks!
As a fountain pen user, I would suggest against that unless you know it suits her personality. Fountains pens require maintenance, and certainly it’s easy maintenance, but it’s definitely more work than a ballpoint. They are a hobby, and if it’s is not her thing, she’ll never use it.
I would instead recommend a nice ballpoint pen set where the ink can be replaced when empty. Something she can use without having to think about or maintaining it.
Tbh I am kinda thinking of somehow giving some muffins, maybe go to school early, like ppl said, teachers have a lot of clutter so pen might not be the best choice
As a teacher, just a letter or card saying how they impacted you is enough.
Not a teacher (but I work with people that sometimes want to give me gifts when we say goodbye) and I agree, card or a letter is great!
Either that or something I can share with my colleagues (chocolate, assorted sweets).
@fastandcurious don’t give anyone perfume/cologne unless you know them well enough to know what they wear.
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A card that has something meaningful about their teaching written in it.
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Since she’s early career, give written feedback to the school about what a great teacher she is.
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As another poster suggested: muffins and a nice card go a long way. Especially since few students show appreciation anyway. She’ll definitely appreciate the card and gesture more than any particular gift that you might include.
And definitely don’t do perfume. It’s difficult enough to shop for yourself, much less for others. Just don’t.
I just love any scent as long as it’s not too strong ¯_(ツ)_/¯, but I know people can be very picky, but honestly as long as I don’t smell sweat, I am happy
Fragrance is a very risky gift. Some people do not want that shit and don’t even want it around them. I get upset if I’m sharing a room with someone wearing too much perfume for too long.
My coworker is very sensitive to fragrances. I personally love a nice cologne, but I can’t wear the strong stuff around her without it bothering her. So I don’t.
As a former teacher, I’d never consider something a student bought me as a romantic gift, that’s just not a thing. Chocolates are nice, but echoing what someone else said, a nice card with a message is really special. I still have every thank you card my students ever gave me, and I once printed out an email a student sent me when they got their first job to keep. It just gives you fuzzy feelings to think you may have been helpful.
I don’t think you have to worry too much. A classic gift of a vibrator should probably get your point across and not get misinterpreted.
(Sorry, I had to, I know I’m dumb)
Maybe find another student and gift something together.
I live in a trashy society and my friends are a gr8 example, if they even catch a snitch, next day is gonna be like ‘Oooooh he loves his teacher ooooooh’
Protip since you’re young, it’s all fine and good if your friends bust your balls as a joke, but if you genuinely don’t think you can do a nice gesture for a teacher without them incessantly mocking you, you need better friends.
Like if you give a gift to this teacher, and your friends start cracking wise about it, do you think they’ll stop on their own or give you shit about it for the rest of time?
Don’t be embarrassed about wanting to do something nice for someone. If your friends are immature about it, that’s their problem.
“I live in a trashy society” don’t we all brother
More seriously, you got great advices in the thread, esp the pen and the muffins. You can offer sweets without having it mistaken as a romantic gestures, it then depends on the sweets you offer. A box of chocolates intent can easily be misconstrued, a box of donuts/muffins, much less so. Except if said muffins have hearts on them, it’s all about context.
Good luck !
so chocolates wouldn’t necessarily be romantic unless they were… you know… romantic. Like. valentines heart boxes would be a no go. But something like a box of See’s Assortment or Lindt’s truffles, etc, are pretty impersonal.
A note and some trinket or candy or baked goods is probably the way to go. It doesn’t have to be academic-related, for, he record. if you got to know her really well, and maybe she liked… I dunno… legos… a lego minifig key chain, as an example.
I’d just stay away from apples. Kinda cliche. And the perfume. Stay away from the perfume! that would be worse than the chocolates (not least because it’s usually ridiculously expensive. Also incredibly hard to guess what kind of perfume some one might like.)
I’d also suggest that flowers are too easily misinterpreted, as well.
Eh, muffins and a card would probably work lol.
‘Good Morning, Thanks for your help throughout the session, here are some muffins’
But this could work ig, muffins are delicious and probably the simplest thing so I don’t think it’s gonna get mistaken
Exactly. Not many people use a batch of blueberry muffins as a romantic gesture but it still gets the intended point across and shows that you’re grateful.
Yeah, I feel like it’s better than a pen, but I gotta find a way to preserve it in my bag for about 4hrs, assuming I am able to get them in the morning, during exams teachers are quite busy in the morning, It would probably not go bad but I feel like muffins taste best when they are warm and fresh, even after a day I feel like they are not quite as good
Drop them at the staff room with a note about who they’re for.
A card with a well-written note would be the best. Take time thinking about the tiny things she did that meant a lot to you.
Yeah card is a given, I should probably start now because I suck at arts and some paper is gonna get wasted
a genuine card and a gift card to a nice restaurant. or maybe a wine voucher
I teach younger ages but my favourite things are cards or artwork that the kids have made. I find the intention and effort behind them most rewarding.
Other than that I don’t mind a good gift card.
Hate chocolate and mugs, I have so much uneaten chocolate and so many mugs I don’t use. But I’m not a big chocolate person anyway, so my preference there may not match others.
If she’s still young like you said, she probably hasn’t gotten that many notes of appreciation so for sure add one along with whatever you give as the emotional support they provide gets you through shit days knowing that your sacrifice is valued.
We had a wonderful English teacher in our college. And on the last day many students gave her some gifts. If I remember correctly, we gave a small bamboo plant that sits on a table, some squishy smiley balls aka stress balls, a custom printed tshirt, a book, and maybe a mug too.
A thank you card and a gift certificate for food. Everybody needs food.
