Minority, yes, but not louder if you want to see loud trans women they’re there on Instagram with the rest of all the oversensitive-vulnerable narcissist personality types (subclinical but quite annoying indeed).
As I see it trans folks gravitate towards general nerddom precisely because it doesn’t have to do anything with sex or gender, is a refuge for people who don’t really feel like they fit in with the majority. Not to dismiss the existence of sexist etc. asshats calling themselves nerds, by and large noone bats an eye if you’r AMAB but play a flirty female elf rogue in AD&D. And as far as contributing to an open source project is concerned you could be a literal cat and people would barely notice.
Yea, n I unintentionally fked it up here too for one such person. So I was discussing solutions for a problem that I had encountered with my project on Matrix. I didn’t know it then, but I was talking to a trans woman then. Now, I had a habit of “yessirrr”-ing when I was excited. So I found the solution, and in my excited state, I said “yessirrr” somewhere. She immediately corrected me by saying that it was “yes ma’am”. I apologized and explained the situation. I then looked at her bio, and it had the flag and all that. She unfortunately ghosted me after that incident :(.
So yeah… I’ve tried to have inclusive language n whatnot after that. Cuz uk… U never realise how heteronormative our language is and how not inclusive it is for many many people.
Minority, yes, but not louder if you want to see loud trans women they’re there on Instagram with the rest of all the oversensitive-vulnerable narcissist personality types (subclinical but quite annoying indeed).
As I see it trans folks gravitate towards general nerddom precisely because it doesn’t have to do anything with sex or gender, is a refuge for people who don’t really feel like they fit in with the majority. Not to dismiss the existence of sexist etc. asshats calling themselves nerds, by and large noone bats an eye if you’r AMAB but play a flirty female elf rogue in AD&D. And as far as contributing to an open source project is concerned you could be a literal cat and people would barely notice.
If it was a literal cat contributing to FOSS I’d like to cuddle it and buy it old Thinkpads
Yea, n I unintentionally fked it up here too for one such person. So I was discussing solutions for a problem that I had encountered with my project on Matrix. I didn’t know it then, but I was talking to a trans woman then. Now, I had a habit of “yessirrr”-ing when I was excited. So I found the solution, and in my excited state, I said “yessirrr” somewhere. She immediately corrected me by saying that it was “yes ma’am”. I apologized and explained the situation. I then looked at her bio, and it had the flag and all that. She unfortunately ghosted me after that incident :(.
So yeah… I’ve tried to have inclusive language n whatnot after that. Cuz uk… U never realise how heteronormative our language is and how not inclusive it is for many many people.
Happens to the best of us. But you improved because of that so there’s a silver lining.
An overreaction to a honest ‘mistake’ wow.