How am I supposed to date as an asexual introverted 24 y/o man? Been on dating apps for months and I haven’t gotten a single match, and going out to meet ppl scares me… Am I doomed?
I’ll give you one piece of advice that helped me when my social anxiety was at its worst.
Volunteer. You’ll be around good people. Probably ain’t going to find your soul mate but it’s a good first step to getting comfortable around other and maybe building a social network.
I did work for a outdoor theater event myself. Even my gaint, awkward, and potenally autistic self enjoyed it. And the confidence I gained from it helped a lot in my career even now over a decade later.
It also help me in dating, I had the confidence to at least get dates. Though I didn’t know being ace was a thing I was allowed to be. so I never really got past date one. But at least I got to try out a lot of restaurants.
Sorry for responding so late but this is a brilliant idea. I’ve thought about it but I think I’m gonna end the summer with some volunteer work.
Hope it works out for you. Remember the best part of volunteering is that it’s not as commital as paid work, you can take things slow and talk with your fellow volunteers. And if it’s not working out just go do somthing else. Let no one boss you around and actually have fun.
Thank you so much!! <3
Dating apps are shit because they force you to choose labels to describe yourself which can only describe so much and always ends up with a pedantic conversation involving terms that we only came up with recently. The way I’ve tried to go about it is instead of trying to foster a romantic (or aromantic) relationship directly just go out and try to make friends. Making friends is like dating in that you learn about other people a little at a time but without the giant elephant in the room that being Ace can be. Once you know people a bit better then making the next move of trying to date each other is way easier because you have an understanding and know how to talk to each other.
But keep this in mind too you are you and you are amazing without the need for someone else. Good luck friend
