• adj16@lemmy.worldEnglish
      101·
      10 months ago

      Is this an Orville reference out in the wild? Or is the Orville reference actually a Star Trek reference that I never knew

  • HootinNHollerin@lemmy.world
    282·
    10 months ago

    I knew a guy years ago that was bi then i think gay and recall him saying ‘fucking a vagina is for pussys’

    • funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works
      129·
      10 months ago

      i know this is always awkward but as a bi, saying “went gay” (or straight) is technically bi erasure. Not that I’m super mad about it, but it’s worth pointing out when a bisexual person is in a long term relationship / marriage until death do us part — they don’t stop being bi.

      • thecrotch@sh.itjust.works
        72·
        10 months ago

        “bi erasure” is a nice $2 NPR podcast phrase but isn’t it ultimately up to the individual to define what his own sexuality is? If the guy says he’s gay now, I believe him.

        • dil@lemmy.world
          113·
          10 months ago

          Agree that it’s up to the individual, and that it’s valid to switch from being bi to gay.

          I don’t really like how you pseudo-dismissed bi erasure as “a nice $2 NPR podcast phrase” though. That seems like bi erasure… erasure? And in this case we’re getting a second hand account, so it’s not a given that the person decided that they’re gay - it’s possible that they started dating another guy and OP reported that as “going gay,” in which case it’d be good to mention bi erasure.

          So ultimately I agree with you that “going gay” can be fine, but just wanted to say your phrasing could have been better.

          • thecrotch@sh.itjust.works
            41·
            10 months ago

            “Bi erasure” in this context seems like empty virtue signaling. I can’t exactly interview OPs friend so I have to take them at their word that their friend says he’s gay now. “Fucking vaginas is for pussies” certainly supports that hypothesis.

        • funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works
          27·
          10 months ago

          yes but he’s not saying it, in this context, you are. And I don’t (/anyone doesn’t) have the exact context here. And I’m not saying he did anything wrong, I’m responding to what you said something that seems to me like bi erasure.

          And you can disagree and that’s OK. We’re just giving our opinions here, there’s no winners or losers or objective reality. You may even be gay/bi/other yourself (I wonder why you’ve any skin in the game here if you’re not- but that aside…) - and we can disagree. It doesn’t make either of us right or wrong.

  • clearleaf@lemmy.world
    9·
    10 months ago

    Does anyone have examples of us being close to this? I’ve heard jokes like this but if there’s a real version I would love to see it.

      • ChicoSuave@lemmy.world
        112·
        10 months ago

        Nick Fuentes is actually gay though. Part of the “I’m portraying a white nationalist because I’m afraid of who I am” set. He screams at others to hide the thoughts that fill his own head.

  • jopepa@lemmy.world
    7·
    10 months ago

    They’d probably say it’s only more straight but yeah if they’re really that backed up then they’re all a big sneeze away from finding out their Kinsey scales.

  • MrJukes@lemmy.today
    3·
    10 months ago

    Wanting to be with a woman? How gay is that? You win sex against a man. That’s as straight as it gets.

  • banneryear1868@lemmy.world
    3·
    10 months ago

    This was a bit on Cumtown making fun of Jordan Peterson. “It’s actually uh… gay to get pussy, we just did a study at the University of Canada. Also if your dick is small, it’s actually big!”