• Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    11 months ago

    Yea genuinely like I want to become productive but my parents have been so controlling that they’ve stopped me over and over again. Being a NEET at 26 does not happen in a vacuum.

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      11 months ago

      My mom would complain that me or any of my brothers weren’t working, but the minute we got jobs she would say anything for us to quit it. Same thing with college, never a word of positivity, just eventually say “why u going through all of this? Quit”. It’s hard being in this kind of toxic environment, consider that your mom is the one that gave you resources such as confidence, dealing with frustration, etc. Being this ambivalent make you question how insecure you raise a child (check John Bowlby). I am not taking away responsibility from anon, but things are complex and sometimes we need help to see clearer and get out of the house.

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      11 months ago

      Basically it’s either a shit environment or medical issues that make people turn out this way.

      Plenty of people are successful in spite of those things, it’s not really fair to hold up who got lucky as the standard.