Why some men bully and hate on women who post here their own images? Specifically women who have a link in their bio.
As somebody who is not enjoying watching nor listening to ads, I understand that part, but we still get to see those beautiful/sexy photos/videos for free.
And even those women who post without any aggressive promotion, variety of content (not recycling the same photo in different sub-communities), not providing any links directly in their posts nor asking for anything and just enjoying being social, get attacked too. Why?
What has happened to live and let live? Why being so rude and disrespectful? I truly don’t get it.
I mean I have a theory, but I would hate to offend anyone, it’s just not in me to be disrespectful, so I keep it to myself for now.
That said, I also would like to acknowledge that vast majority of Lemmy NSWF members are awesome and many thanks to you all for building this fun community.
So I’m not one of those people but I think I get where they’re coming from.
The issue is one of quantity vs quality. Many of the most prolific OnlyFans posters make the same generic content and they post that content in every community they posibly can to hit the widest audience. It was really bad on reddit where they would post the same picture of their boobs in 15 different subreddits. So far that hasn’t been as much of an issue on Lemmy but I think people are woried that if it isn’t stopped early then it will start to be an issue and that is why they are targeting all OF posters. I get why OnlyFans posters do that though. OnlyFans is very competitive and very few people actually make any decent money off of it so if you want to make money on there then you need to market yourself agressively and you need to make your content generic enough to apeal to the widest audience.
On the other hand, if somebody is just posting their amateur content without any monetary goal then they don’t need to be concerned with marketability. Actual amateurs are free to be much more varied and to only post their content in communities where it actually applies. Sure, good verified amateur content is significantly more rare than professional OF content, but without all the professional OF spam it would be easier to find on here. A lot of people also don’t seem to understand the difference between someone who posts on OF as their job and someone who posts on OF because they were posting amateur content anyways so why not post on OF too and maybe make some extra money.
There’s also the fact that, like you said, people just don’t like being advertized to. That’s also probably the root of a lot of the hate.
best comment in the thread.
Thank you for your valuable input and taking time to answer. Much appreciated.
I absolutely can see this aspect, as I have mentioned in my original post. Personally I also rather enjoy the community with social interactions that are more authentic and fun.
But this still leaves my question open, because women who do not engage in the practices you described and on contrary engage in building this community without any advertisment, but happen to have a link in their bio, are targeted too.
Now to clarify - I don’t think anyone should be targeted at all, subs can set the rules, we must follow them, and mods can warn and ban those who break them. And in all other cases - don’t like something then don’t look at it.
But it seems having a link in bio is enough to bring the hate on and this really is something I would love the haters to clarify- why?
I’ve only been on here for a few days and gotten some weird hate comments. I know my look is not for most people and that is fine, but I’ve gotten more negative comments here than I ever did on Reddit in just a few days. It’s just weird that people rather spend more time looking at my pic they don’t like to post a negative comment. 🤷♀️
I’m truly sorry your experience with Lemmy is so negative. You look badass and beautiful, and I hope you don’t let this negativity get into you.
Yeah very weird. You can easily block people or groups who are following guidelines but who you don’t want to see posts! 😞
Granted one of the hate comments was pretty funny so I hope they try to be creative like that in the future lol. But yeah it’s just weird behavior, makes me think they’re mad at me for not being their typical fap material but I still gave them a hard on.
Yeah I’ve seen those comments and downvoted them. I’m sorry you have to deal with that crap. I for one haven’t been back to reddit since the protests began so I’m glad you are here! 😀
I think it is a lack of maturity and misplaced sense of entitlement. I don’t know if it’s possible to block a user to keep them from being able to see or comment on your posts. That certainly would be a great feature. 😀
I’m sorry you ladies have to put up with so many idiots. I downvote them when I see them.
Thank you for being you.
Yes there is a block feature. I am not sure how it exactly works, but I would presume the blocked member is prevented from viewing and interacting.
But the question remains- why? I hope those brave keyboard warriors have enough courage to share their reasoning here.
People are complete assholes on the internet. They say things they would never consider saying in person.
I hope you can ignore and block them and keep posting because we need to keep seeing your sexy ass!
Thanks for replying 😘
I agree with your sentiments, but I still would love to hear reasoning from those who are so offended by everyone with a link in their bio.
It’s unfortunate that shitty people exist.
What is the best way the rest of us can encourage you to keep doing what you’re doing?
It’s awesome that you’re providing a service to us for free out of the goodness of your heart. Let us know if there’s anything we can do besides upvotes to restore the motivation that gets sucked away by people’s disrespectful comments.
Thank you.
I sense a hint of sarcasm here, but I also may be wrong.
In any case the encouragement is not needed, but thanks for offering 🥰
I’m a emotionally mature alas wild woman, who feels comfortable in my own skin and with everything I do. Don’t need sweet talking to keep me going, nor bad mouthing to stop me. I am soft and friendly and full of positive energy, but I also have a tough skin and I’m not that fragile.
The purpose of this post was the get an answer to my question, not to vent nor look for support. Most people here are awesome. I just don’t understand those few and this is not my personal experience but what I have noticed generally ever since I joined this community.
Thank you for taking time to reply and I hope it was in a good faith too. Wishing you a great day.
I’m sorry that you’re having such unpleasant experiences with some users on here. Please report people that leave hateful comments, I think most moderators will gladly delete them. Some people are sadly not used to treating other human beings with dignity on the internet… xD
This - please report people who are using the platform to expouse their hate, unnecessary misogyny (unless that’s what you’re into…) or are just generally trolls.
Also, if moderators are the ones encouraging, taking part, or otherwise ignoring it, please let an administrator know so we can try to resolve it.
Thank you for taking a clear stance on that! <3
Above and beyond reporting any shitty comments that we see, is there any other actions that you would like to see from socially well adjusted men here?
Thank you. All appreciation and much love to well adjusted members of this community.
I have a feeling I may have expressed myself in too much detail, as this post was to be a question, not a cry for help out of frustration.
I would love to see those brave keyboard warriors, being courageous enough to answer, because I honestly would love to know why.
Please report them as soon as you see them. Like Limeey said.
Thanks for taking a strong stance on this. Have a great day
