Well, then you’ll never get the chance to speak in a group.
Look, I just saw this post on c/all and wanted to give some advice. I don’t have autism, but I spent a couple years working with people who had special needs to help them develop scial skills. People that for the most part couldn’t hold down a job that paid minimal wage and stayed in highschool till their 20s. People that spent 8 hours a day, 5 days a week for years busting their asses trying to improve their social skills.
This worked wonders for them and it’s socially acceptable to do it in public.
If they can handle it, so can you.
But I was fully aware when making that comment that while it works for people that actually have autism and have difficulty knowing how to join a conversation…
I’d get a couple people telling me that it’s too much effort for them to try. Because lots of people on the Internet claim to have undiagnosed autism when they never put any effort into developing their social skills.
So I guess I should have prefaced it with:
If you actually want to work on speaking in a group setting, try this
It’s always so nice when someone comes into a group they don’t belong to and proceeds to make assumptions about a bunch people they’ve never met and everything they’re doing wrong and then spouts some shit like “have you tried just not being autistic?”
aside from the fact it’s very hard to hear for some reason
As Kevin Hart once said:
Say it with your chest
If you work on posture back straight, shoulders back (imagine holding a ball between your shouldblades). Thenit’ll open up your diaphragm and make your voice louder without feeling like your yelling.
It’ll also make you more physically noticable and will likely help with people giving you the space to speak.
Oh yeah, there’s lot of better and more specific words.
But “bruh” is easy to say and fits regardless of what comes next. You could be agreeing/disagreeing, showing disbelief or understanding. Angry or empathetic.
“Bruh” just always works. So if someone is having difficulty communicating that have something to say, they can say that while still not sure what they’re going to say.
It’s the most versatile interjection in modern English.
Or start talking at the same time as someone so the group notices, tell that person to go first, and then subconsciously the group will be waiting for you to say what you were going to say after. And if someone butts in before you talk next, stop them and say “let me just finish my thought first.” If they say no, or talk over you, they’ll look like the asshole, since you already let someone talk first and were “next in line” so to speak
Dont try to immediately jump into what you want to say.
Takes a fraction of a second to say, and is basically a turn signal letting everyone know you’re about to start talking.
There’s lots of words that work the same way, but “bruh” is ridiculously easy to blurt out and tell everyone you’re going to start talking.
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Well, then you’ll never get the chance to speak in a group.
Look, I just saw this post on c/all and wanted to give some advice. I don’t have autism, but I spent a couple years working with people who had special needs to help them develop scial skills. People that for the most part couldn’t hold down a job that paid minimal wage and stayed in highschool till their 20s. People that spent 8 hours a day, 5 days a week for years busting their asses trying to improve their social skills.
This worked wonders for them and it’s socially acceptable to do it in public.
If they can handle it, so can you.
But I was fully aware when making that comment that while it works for people that actually have autism and have difficulty knowing how to join a conversation…
I’d get a couple people telling me that it’s too much effort for them to try. Because lots of people on the Internet claim to have undiagnosed autism when they never put any effort into developing their social skills.
So I guess I should have prefaced it with:
Speaking of social skills.
It’s always so nice when someone comes into a group they don’t belong to and proceeds to make assumptions about a bunch people they’ve never met and everything they’re doing wrong and then spouts some shit like “have you tried just not being autistic?”
People just love that.
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meanwhile my voice gets ignored all the time no matter what, aside from the fact it’s very hard to hear for some reason
As Kevin Hart once said:
If you work on posture back straight, shoulders back (imagine holding a ball between your shouldblades). Thenit’ll open up your diaphragm and make your voice louder without feeling like your yelling.
It’ll also make you more physically noticable and will likely help with people giving you the space to speak.
I’ll keep that advice with me
It’s probably due to my age but that would be super weird to do with my peer group unless using it ironically. I’d sooner go with “well” or “so…”
Oh yeah, there’s lot of better and more specific words.
But “bruh” is easy to say and fits regardless of what comes next. You could be agreeing/disagreeing, showing disbelief or understanding. Angry or empathetic.
“Bruh” just always works. So if someone is having difficulty communicating that have something to say, they can say that while still not sure what they’re going to say.
It’s the most versatile interjection in modern English.
Dude.
I’ll try that at the next steering committee meeting.
IJBOL.
Or start talking at the same time as someone so the group notices, tell that person to go first, and then subconsciously the group will be waiting for you to say what you were going to say after. And if someone butts in before you talk next, stop them and say “let me just finish my thought first.” If they say no, or talk over you, they’ll look like the asshole, since you already let someone talk first and were “next in line” so to speak