I understand what you’re saying. But how does introducing another person into the mix prevent some creepo from doing any of this if they were going to otherwise? The difference to my understanding of what you said is making up an excuse yourself, vs signaling someone else walk up and make up an excuse on your behalf. This isn’t rhetorical, please help me understand.
Rejection isn’t all the same. if you point at them and announce loudly you’re creepy to me and heckle, that’s def going to provoke a bad response. But perhaps you’re right that I’m unaware of how bad people can be because if someone says hey I’m not really here for this right now, or even says before we go any further, have you given your life and soul to Jesus Christ?, I find it hard to imagine any rational person wouldn’t determine the best path forward for them is to immediately cut their losses and go talk to someone else. Causing a scene or behaving like a creep just ruins your chances with someone else.
I understand what you’re saying. But how does introducing another person into the mix prevent some creepo from doing any of this if they were going to otherwise? The difference to my understanding of what you said is making up an excuse yourself, vs signaling someone else walk up and make up an excuse on your behalf. This isn’t rhetorical, please help me understand.
Rejection isn’t all the same. if you point at them and announce loudly you’re creepy to me and heckle, that’s def going to provoke a bad response. But perhaps you’re right that I’m unaware of how bad people can be because if someone says hey I’m not really here for this right now, or even says before we go any further, have you given your life and soul to Jesus Christ?, I find it hard to imagine any rational person wouldn’t determine the best path forward for them is to immediately cut their losses and go talk to someone else. Causing a scene or behaving like a creep just ruins your chances with someone else.