• Haui@discuss.tchncs.de
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    1 year ago

    Not sure op should directly be advised to seek help. We don’t even know (or I overlooked) who they are talking about.

    People fall in love with their friends, have a crush on classmates (and misjudge that). Depending on age the person just needs to learn. I actually had that situation at the age of 14. Didn’t go anywhere.

    Have a good one.

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      1 year ago

      I agree, was general advice that an unnatural infatuation should be an indicator, not specific for OP. I don’t know enough about them to know whether that’s the case, but it’s never impossible, and a therapist should never make things worse at least and may help them better understand their emotions (if they’re doing their job).

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        1 year ago

        As someone who has years of therapy experience for things I shouldn’t talk unsolicited about: therapists absolutely help most of the time. But one big problem is pathologizing things.

        A lot of people fit the criteria for mental disorders in their adolescence. Thats why certain disorders are not diagnosed until they are 18 (probably country specific as well).

        That is why, while you are correct that it’s a possibility, it is not the only one and depends on many factors we as non professionals can not see.