• ᴇᴍᴘᴇʀᴏʀ 帝@feddit.uk
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    1 year ago

    I had a 15 year marriage that ended rough, and I’ve spent the last three years of it and the last year out of it, basically suicidal.

    Sorry to hear this, it’s rough when you are in the thick of it but I’ve had a few friends go though this 10+ years ago and, while the first few years are rocky (I was close to contacting one friend’s family to stage some kind of intervention), it does get better. Never be afraid to ask for help if you need it.

    I’ve gone on a date or two, and realized I can’t be happy with anyone until I’m happy.

    It’s definitely a lesson a lot of us have learned the hard way.

    it’s hard to shake off the idea that the love of your life already came and went

    That’s definitely a nagging feeling you get after a break-up, it fades with time as you realise there’s no such thing as the love of your life, there are plenty of people out there for you.

    Online dating also feels more like a ripoff than something actually meant to work

    Another lesson we learn the hard way - if daring apps were successful they’d shut down in 6 months. Parr of their business model has to be maintaining a body of users that are unhappy but think the next match could be The One.

    Good luck with everything. From what I’ve seen, it feels like you are almost out the other side of the worst if it.