• stevedidWHAT@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Nah, it’s the overall response pattern, tease, deny reject, feed after something really bad happens.

    It’s classical abuse techniques

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      1 year ago

      How is the yellow one teasing? I just see a really emotionally unavailable person with no interest in vulnerability. There’s nothing appealing or interesting, so how is it enticing interest? And what does feed mean?

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        Because someone is showing interest in him on an app that’s designed for finding interested people. He then reciprocates that curiosity and interest in him with “I’m not gonna tell you”

        “Come on tell me”

        “Haha no”

        That’s textbook “teasing behavior”. Feeding is when the abuser flips about face and apologizes and does big grandiose corrections for previous behavior and then the cycle continues. This dude didn’t get that far but that’s pretty sensible considering they were only just talking and that technique is reserved as a way to “reel them back in”