For me, the most important physical attributes would be a nice face (easy on the eyes) and ideally large breasts.
Personality wise, what I look for most is someone who is reasonable. Someone I can talk to about pretty much anything without fear of judgement or rash accusations.
I’m married, so I’m obviously not looking for a partner, but I thought this would be an interesting question, so I thought I’d ask.
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so true
Interesting that I can edit a deleted comment.
I definitely think that’s fair. Good thing for things like sex toys, loli/shota/cub to fill the void in a non-harmful way.
- Woman (optional)
Seriously though, I think I’d look for someone who I’m comfortable being with, as in being able to talk about dumb stuff for hours or stay silent in the same room enjoying each other’s company. I know it sounds vague, but I’ve seen so many couples who don’t get along, it’s pretty puzzling.
Personality-wise, someone who can see things from a somewhat neutral point of view or open to new perspectives would be ideal. Ideally on the smarter side. Creative/proactive in their hobbies as well, at the very least deeply curious and not a mindless consumer of whatever is easier to get. Interests must include anime and some niche/unusual activity, and being technologically inclined is a big plus. Of course, I must be able to trust that person; feeling jealousy or uncertainty sounds like it’d make the whole thing pointless.
Physically, my only hard requirement is not being obese (a bit of fat is ok). The “Woman (optional)” thing is mostly true, though (I’ll focus on women here). Height should be ideally above 1.60 m, but I have nothing against >IMAGINE or death by snu-snu, for that matter. Breasts of any size, including no breasts. I’d rather date someone with straight hair, but it’s not a deal breaker or anything.
Yeah, maybe I’m more selective than I thought, but that’s an ideal partner. I have never had one btw, and at this point I’m not sure I ever will. Next time, someone should ask for dating profiles of others for them to find love, hahaha wouldn’t that be funny
I’m above average in both measurements, so preferably someone on the smaller side that I can easily cuddle or carry. Breast size doesn’t really matter to me, too big can be too much. Preferably a cute face; on average the shorter they are, the cuter I find them.
Personality wise, a cuddly reasonable absolute nerd. Mostly anime/computer tech/gaming nerd. Extra Bonus points for being comfortable with loli content/hentai while understanding it’s purely fictional.
I guess my overall goal is to be able to comfortably laze around cuddling my SO while enjoying nerd stuff.
Loyalty. I have a thing for yanderes because that undying loyalty is a beautiful thing. There are many uncertainties in life and it’d be nice to have a relationship that’s not one of them.
That’s a good one, totally agree, in a world of uncertainties, your relationship should be one of the few stable things in life.
I had something like that. Less yandere and more just loyal. It was somewhat nice but there was something unsettling about it, like she was so into me that I couldn’t trust her to give me her real opinion on other things that were bothering me because I know she’d just try and make me feel better instead of being honest.
I’d absolutely have to find them attractive. I know people can look past physical attributes if their partner’s personality is great, and that’s fine, I just don’t feel like I can do that. To me, romance (and sex, of course) is a pretty big part of a relationship, and if I can’t look at her and go “wow she’s cute” (or something along those lines), then it just isn’t going to work for me.
She should also need to have her own identity. Not gender identity, fuck that, I mean she’s her own person with her own goals and opinions etc. Someone who I can actually talk to and joke around and hang out with, someone who fits in with my friend group, not just with me.
And if I had to be shallow and pick a physical attribute or two: slim body, and breast shape >>>>> breast size. They can be the size of space hoppers or look like two skittles on an ironing board, as long as the shape is good then I’m happy!
two skittles on an ironing board
What kind of shape fits this description? Any examples that’s not just flat? Besides that, I think among all the comments in here, I agree with yours the most with the exception of the last paragraph.
I meant that the size doesn’t matter to me as long as the shape is good. They can be nonexistent or they can be massive, as long as they have a nice shape then I like them.
Sorry if my wording was confusing!
Physically they need a face I enjoy seeing. Not a super high bar to pass I feel. Decent teeth, basic hygiene, they really just need to not look or smell like a ghoul. There’s going to be a sliding scale of interest beyond that, but physical is more of a disqualifier than a qualifier for me.
Now the tougher physical one for my American ladies: she has to be lighter/thinner than me. I’m currently in less than ideal shape, but the proper fatties are immediately out. Most women will be shorter to significantly shorter than me, so this bar shouldn’t be a high one to overcome, yet somehow it is.
Personality/past is going to be the highest hurdles honestly. She needs to have some sort of passion, an interest in advancing in some aspect of her life (and this cannot be a purely consumptive goal like watch X movies, go to X many places, ride X type of horse, own X type of house in Y location, etc). I’m not a fan of someone who is content to accomplish nothing in their life and stagnate at the purely average. I’d really prefer their interests somewhat coincide with mine, but as long as they’re capable of coexisting I wouldn’t mind.
This will go hand-in-hand with the second qualifier, she needs a fairly long time horizon outlook and a high locus of control. I’m not a fan of someone who thinks they cannot heavily influence their future and drifts from thing to thing with no thought of what they want in 5, 10, 20 or 40 years down the line and what they might need to get there. They don’t need it mapped out entirely, just milestones and general targets of what they want and actual attempts to reach those goals.
Going to need them to also be at maximum a moderate, and definitely not partisan. That’s going to be way too many fights over stupid shit from talking heads and is going to cause schisms.
Yes I know it’s quite the tall order of requirements. I’m currently not in a condition the women I’m seeking deserve to be dating, and have stayed out of the dating pool until I improve myself, mostly in the physical environment.
I’m not too picky about physical appearance, but I’d prefer someone who’s taller than me. Good hygiene is also quite important.
As for personality, a willingness to cuddle is a huge plus! And it would also be quite nice if they were open to playing video games or partake in some other nerdy interests with me. Beyond that, I’d also prefer if they had a somewhat low libido since my own libido isn’t that high.
And when it comes to gender, I don’t really have a preference.
I have two things I consider:
- Height. They can’t be too tall!
I am 5ft/152cm tall.
If I am with someone taller than like, 5.6ft/168cm I will end up looking like a child next to them. They could pick me up like fucking King Kong, it freaks me out. Any form of casual physical intimacy would be obnoxious because I’d have to crane my neck back and stand on my tippies to reach them.
So close to my height or shorter is the ideal!
- Personality.
I think someone kind and thoughtful is best, with a gentle personality. Someone like say, Charles Ingalls (from the little house on the prairie show, not the real man).
I’m married to someone who meets my requirements.
