If anyone can find more pixels for me i would appreciate it.

Thanks y’all.

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    I thought y’all was just a gender neutral term combining you and all.

    How would it be wrong or offensive to refer to refer to trans person as “y’all”? Genuine question.

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      How would it be wrong or offensive to refer to refer to trans person as “y’all”?

      “Y’all not welcome in these parts”

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    I’m from Maryland and I said “howdy” in New York and I got roasted by the CVS clerk for 2 full minutes. And then I said “do y’all have Tylenol” in hopes that she could point me in the direction. Another minute of her roasting me…

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    It feels like a standard case of it’s fine until it isn’t. I wouldn’t worry about it and only drop it from your vocabulary if you notice it causing harm.

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    Y’all actually has gained particular traction in the north through the queer community. Most trans people I know use y’all even if their geographic location doesn’t indicate they should

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    Second person never has a gender in English. Saying “you” should also be fine, or “thee” if you feel like getting your quaker on.

    Special requests notwithstanding - the platinum rule here is just to accommodate whatever you reasonably can.

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    Having exported myself from the deep South to Yankee land, “Y’all have a good one!” never fails to brighten the day of someone working a cash register.

    In general, folks up here really like southern politeness. They think sugar wouldn’t melt in my mouth. I get stopped in stores to talk all the time. Pretty frequently, they just give me a discount. I thought Yankees were supposed to be rude, but they’re actually really nice in public.

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    Fwiw, second person is fine as long as there’s no misgendering… It’s like calling someone by their name

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    People where I am from call everyone “you guys” - men, women, trans, doesn’t matter, everyone is just “you guys” even when it’s a woman addressing a group of women.

    The literal meaning isn’t gender neutral, but in actual practice, it 100% is.

    As for “y’all” or “you all”, I don’t see how it could possibly be interpreted as offensive to any gender.

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      Dude is also situationally gender neutral. Saying “Hey dude” to a trans woman is misgendering her but exclaiming “Yo dude check this out!” or “Duuuude no way” is perfectly acceptable.

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      The literal meaning isn’t gender neutral, but in actual practice, it 100% is.

      Unless you can ask a straight man how many guys he’s slept with, it isn’t gender neutral, no matter how resistant to this fact you are.

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        That’s how people use it, whether you like it or not. I did not invent the language, but that’s how people use it.

        Saying “guys” on its own is also not the same thing as “you guys” in regions that do this.

        You can shoot the messenger all you like but it is what it is and I have no power over how people in a region use a language, I am merely informing you of that fact.

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        I don’t see the issue with using the term “guys” in the plural when referring to a group regardless of sex. That would align with the definition of the word. I’m pretty sure that’s how they meant it.

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          Unless you can ask a straight man how many guys he’s slept with, it isn’t gender neutral, no matter how resistant to this fact you are.

          E: the fact that neither of you give a shit about the people telling you the term isn’t gender neutral, doesn’t apply to us, and that we don’t feel comfortable with you using it to speak to or about us says it all. No matter how much mental gymnastics you do to convince yourself otherwise you are the ones choosing to be the problem instead of actually listening to others and showing some basic respect. It’s an easy fix, too - all you have to do is give a minimal fuck about others.

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            don’t feel comfortable with you using it to speak to or about us

            This actually is relevant, but wasn’t part of your initial statement. If you don’t like people using the term to refer to you then people should absolutely make an effort to not use that term when referencing you.

            Saying there’s some mental gymnastics on my part is a bit of stretch, it’s how the word is defined in the dictionary. All I needed was to read. There’s no disrespect here, if you don’t like it then using the term to refer to you would be disrespectful, but I haven’t done so.

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      As for “y’all” or “you all”, I don’t see how it could possibly be interpreted as offensive to any gender.

      I think “we don’t take kindly to y’all” to a trans person would likely be offensive. Beyond that though, you’re probably okay.

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          I might as well double down while I’m here, “we don’t take kindly” was too aggressive wording.

          I meant something more neutral like “I think y’all are weird”.

          That way, the y’all is the problematic part. That was my point.

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        I mean … Thats just an all out threat with y’all acting as an exclusionary statement.

        All in all agree with your point tho.