• ZILtoid1991@kbin.social
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      Where do I post to improve my chances with women?

      Does Lemmy and/or kbin improve my chances of getting a girlfriend?

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        A relationship is not a job or product, you don’t get them, you HAVE them WITH other people. People don’t have other people, although it is common to say so in colloquial language.

        This is important and not petty, because language is like a sign post of beliefs and it is important for starting respectful relationships to believe that everyone involved is a person.

        Now, with that knowledge, lemmy can help you, but it can also hurt or not help you.

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          I have multiple hobbies (programming, art, etc.), have regular showers, and I don’t have any gyms in my area. What now?

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            Get a hobby you don’t do alone on your PC. One where you go out and meet people to do it, preferably one that isn’t only done by men (unless you are looking to date men).

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              For instance they could learn macramé or some crafting ting, go to yoga classes or dancing lessons, or what about baking or cooking lessons.

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                  Being bad at dancing could be an advantage you use their laughter and sympathy to break the ice. Anyway scout the local area and sign up for some silly stuff and see where that takes you.

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              Issue is, I live in a mostly died out community, and the only social hobby accessible to me is social alcoholism. Hungarian suburbs in areas with very high unemployment rival the American ones in badness, and we don’t even have awful zoning laws.

              EDIT: Can I use the Fediverse for dating?

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      It’s a paradox. I can only hope these guys are frustrated high schoolers who will mature, and then look back on stuff like this and laugh/cringe.