Uh, you kind of hit on and conflate several different points here. I am younger than you (33) but I do remember that era of “dumb cell phone” when people expected you to be able to pick up their call at any time. And yes, it was annoying.
But that’s what it was. Annoying. Not traumatic or upsetting, just annoying.
Hell, I know a lot of people whose boundary is “no phone calls unless (list of super serious things like someone died) or we text first and agree on a phone call” and when someone potentially has that boundary and then panicks when they get a phone call outside of it, the solution might be a little more advanced than “seek help”.
Nope, the solution is still “seek help” because that’s an unhealthy and maladaptive boundary. You should be able to take a phone call as an adult without panicking. At most, it should cause you annoyance and dealing with annoyance properly is one of the main skills of adulthood.
Uh, you kind of hit on and conflate several different points here. I am younger than you (33) but I do remember that era of “dumb cell phone” when people expected you to be able to pick up their call at any time. And yes, it was annoying.
But that’s what it was. Annoying. Not traumatic or upsetting, just annoying.
Nope, the solution is still “seek help” because that’s an unhealthy and maladaptive boundary. You should be able to take a phone call as an adult without panicking. At most, it should cause you annoyance and dealing with annoyance properly is one of the main skills of adulthood.