• bstix@feddit.dkEnglish
      61·
      3 months ago

      Their friends are pretty good too. Whenever they hang out they do other stuff. They plan to meet for some purpose and that’s what they do. Keeping up to date on social media is something they do on their own time when they’re bored.

      It’s like they grow out of it, once they’ve seen enough crap.

      • Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        3 months ago

        I know one family like that. Kids prefer activities to phones. But the rest not so much. The kids get together and do things in spurts separated by phone time. Usually whatever they are doing, at least one of them is on the phone. So it is really kid dependent.

      • 🖖USS-Ethernet@startrek.websiteEnglish
        42·
        3 months ago

        That’s great and all, but you have to remember that your anecdotal evidence may not represent the majority. In this case, enough of the country is noticing a problem.

        My teen chooses not to take his phone to school because he knows it’ll distract him. But the stuff he tells me happens at school with phones blows my mind. It’s amazing half of the entire class isn’t failing tremendously.

        The county has had to become more lenient on kids’ grades that want to join sports teams because otherwise they wouldn’t have a team, it’s that bad.

        • bstix@feddit.dkEnglish
          2·
          3 months ago

          I think you’re missing my point.

          I doubt the sports jocks use their phone during sports ball practice?

          Seems like a sports jock attention problem more than a phone availability problem.

        • technocrit@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          45·
          3 months ago

          Your anecdotes and your kid’s anecdotes might not represent reality either. But somehow y’all are (violently) banning phones for everybody.

          • bstix@feddit.dkEnglish
            42·
            3 months ago

            Exactly.

            I’m surprised to see users on Lemmy being this dead set on banning stuff for kids just because "we tried nothing and it doesn’t work*

            Social media is bad, phones are bad, I get it, but banning is not the solution.

            Kids will grow up in a world with both social media and phones. IMO school should prepare them and be a practice ground for it, so they don’t make the same mistakes as we - the parents - did.

            Like posted elsewhere, my kids are better at it than I am. Banning phones is projection all the way.

            I’m perfectly fine with disallowing phones during class, but an outright ban is an extreme reaction completely missing the problematic issues and potentially making it worse.