• Essence_of_Meh@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Here are some possible reasons for people getting mad if you’re really wondering why it happens:

    • unsolicited advice can make people feel stupid (you love to learn, not everyone does)
    • comments like yours can be used as a way of making fun of OP to disregard their point without actually interacting with it
    • being corrected on a slip up and not something you sincerely don’t know can be annoying (either towards the person correcting you or towards yourself for “not knowing something this simple”)
    • I don’t know about others but my school life never taught me how to deal with criticism, if you made a mistake you didn’t study properly and should go back to doing that instead of being explained what went wrong and why (this one might sound a worse than it really was but you get the point)

    I’m not saying you did any of those things and I’m right there with you on learning but the knee-jerk reactions often do have a reason behind them. There’s also the whole issue with how polarized social media is these days and the willingness to listen or admit to a mistake can be a difficult thing to stomach (“it’s a sign of weakness”).

    I hope that helps!

    • dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de
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      4 months ago

      Thanks for this. It really does help to understand the reasons.

      I would say that I always try to preface my unsolicited advice to try and convey that I am not shitting on people or being condescending, as I did here. I do this so people can feel comfortable that I’m doing it to be nice and without any malice at all. I know you said I didn’t do any of these things, I just wanted to explain my thought process.

      • Essence_of_Meh@lemmy.world
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        4 months ago

        I get it. At the end of the day web is a vast space and people will have different experience functioning here, all we can do is try to convince others we’re genuine and do our thing. I’m just happy whenever a positive interactions like your and OP’s happen.