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I’m American but lived in Japan for a couple of years. I was so shocked by the amazing customer service the Japanese workers gave me but never asked or expected a tip.
I was so confused coming back here and seeing all of stores implementing an option to tip and I’m trying to figure out… for what? Most of the workers hardly acknowledge me when I’m there and it feels as if I’m bothering them coming to order something, and then they turn the iPad around asking for a tip.
This honestly needs to stop.
I was so shocked by the amazing customer service the Japanese workers gave me but never asked or expected a tip.
That’s how the entire world works outside of NA.
I always say it’s shocking what us Americans are accustomed to here in the US, and those that have never been outside of the country would never know these things. I also visited Australia for a bit and noticed no one asked or expected a tip as well.
Glad I had the opportunity to see how other countries do things outside the US 🙂
It’s becoming a bit more like that with service charges automatically added to bills in the UK, but only for restaurant meal, never for anything else.
And yet there’s this myth that without tips all the workers would be lazy and you’d get no good service.
I’ve heard and seen that repeated constantly.
I think thats more to do with Japanese culture than anything. Staff at even convenience stores were super nice and helpful when I stayed in Japan. But here people don’t really care that much. You cant expect a culture of people to change. Id much rather permanently live in Japan if my work and family didnt tie me down.
Oh I definitely agree. The Japanese were taught at a young age to show respect to others and to do your best no matter how small or insignificant the job may seem to others. At this point, it is what it is here in the US, I just expect it now. It was just more of a reverse culture shock coming back here after living in Japan for a few years.
I’ve also got my mind set on moving back and staying in Japan permanently when I get the chance.
If this backlash kills off tipping in America forever, good.
Employers should be paying their employee a living wage anyways, instead of shifting the responsibility to the customers.
In states that don’t still need to pay minimum wage, I get your point. The last two states that I’ve lived in, though, still require min wage (or higher, depending on some municipalities).
Restaurants operate on notoriously small margins and are tough to make it as a mom and pop, a lot of the time.
I’d rather tip, and have the assurance that money is going to the worker, than pay $30 for a burger and be told the employee is getting a cut.
If they can’t survive because they have to pay their employees their business model is unsustainable.
Restaurants operate on notoriously small margins and are tough to make it as a mom and pop, a lot of the time.
Then charge more for your food. If your business model is unsustainable without paying your staff, you shouldn’t be open.
Except at some restaurants that money isn’t going to the employee, but to the employees* front/back of house… So you’re still only being told the employee is getting a cut… And the bigger company can still outdo mom and pop by volume.
If your business model does not support paying your employees a fair wage, you do not have a viable business model.
I just wish jobs payed livable wages.
I had no idea until recently that coffee shops are allowed to pay tipped wages instead of regular minimum wage. Right now, I am reading up on my state (Florida)‘s minimum wage laws, and apparently any employee who receives tips can be considered a tipped employee, meaning if your workplace has a square POS, congrats, they are allowed to pay you $5.44/hr! The tip credit explanation is also absolutely blowing my mind with a combination of confusion and corporate greed. The fact that there is an under-20 minimum wage of $4.25/hr is absolutely mind-boggling. I could MAYBE understand this for people under 18, but people from 18-20 are adults and plenty of them have already moved out of their parents’ homes. How is this okay?!?
In some places it’s $2.13/hr. It’s not ok. It’s never been ok. We need to change.
Which leads to a more ridiculous expectation that customers should know local labor laws, and then start asking employees about their wages to determine if we should tip them or not. Its really frustrating, and I just wish people paid for labor instead of playing on our emotions.
shoutout to !workreform@lemmy.world, or /c/workreform@lemmy.world
Not going to happen as long as tipping culture persists.
If patrons stopped tipping, and restaurant staff stopped working until a living wage is paid to them, what options do restaurant owners have? They’ll have to accommodate or close their doors.
Either way is better for everyone, since a business that can’t pay their employees isn’t a viable business anyway.
Yet another thing that has been eye opening about living in Europe is how fucked and terrible tipping is in the states. Twenty percent AS A MINIMUM? When I’m picking up food at the counter??? AYFKM?
Not to mention, you can’t have a percentage go up and blame it on inflation.
If a business can’t afford to pay its workers a living wage that business should not exist. If we all stopped going to these places they’ll be forced to fix it.
But Reddit Vs Lemmy is like a microcosm of this issue. Most people will stay on Reddit because god forbid they get inconvenienced or have to do something differently.
The same way people won’t leave twitter, won’t stop getting food at McDonalds or shopping at Wal-Mart, etc…
My general guide for tipping
- traditional service industry where their employer pays them $2/hr. YES, but I wish your employer would just pay you. I’m still tipping not going to punish their employer for that but seriously try not to even go to these places anymore.
- Other traditional services industries, barbor, nail salon,etc. Yes as appreciation. They personally took care of me so yeah.
- Baristas, it any other ipad station. NO. They are paid a standard wage. I might drop my change in a tip jar every now and then when paying cash but that’s it.
- Food trucks and other independently owned stores. Generally No. Food trucks are independently owned and not service industry. If they need more money charge more for the food.
charge more for the food
Yes! Just do this! I promise you seeing more expensive prices on the menu will annoy me FAR less than getting the check and seeing a surprise 18% “service fee.”
Or having your food taste more horsey than normal.
Even for point 1 it’s just wrong. They should not work there for that wage and if the business needs to charge more money to pay them more then charge more money.
Relying on tips for worker pay not only shifts the responsibility for paying the employees away from employer to the customer but also makes employees getting paid optional (depending on how a random person that walked in feels).
I just don’t like tipping as an expectation. If you genuinely want to tip, you’ll know and you won’t need to be asked. There’s nothing wrong with the idea of giving someone a tenner if they go out of their way for you, but being guilted into making a voluntary donation because someone did their job is an example of completely losing the plot. Of course tipped minimum wage shouldn’t be lower either.
I also don’t like the recent trend of being asked to tip before even receiving the service. Uhh… I dunno how much to tip you, you haven’t done anything yet. In the context of delivery apps, it also incentivizes blackmail.
Last thing I’ll point out - tipping is associated with racial and sex-based discrimination, and managers often pocket tips even though it’s technically illegal in most places. So even if you don’t mind it for any other reason, that alone should be enough to discourage it.
I also don’t like the recent trend of being asked to tip before even receiving the service. Uhh… I dunno how much to tip you, you haven’t done anything yet. In the context of delivery apps, it also incentivizes blackmail.
Yeah that’s not a tip, that’s straight up bribery. Fuck doordash.
Fuck doordash for so many reasons outside of that, but yeah, fuck doordash.
It’s worth noting for anyone who does tip on delivery apps - don’t. Part of your tip is a direct donation to DD. They’re not technically lying when they say it “goes to the driver”, but they can sure as hell lower base pay accordingly. If you can’t fight the urge to tip, then tip cash.
Where I live, there are plenty of restaurants with tipflation.
And then there are the worker-owned pizza joint and coffee shop, which do not even have a tip jar on the counter. They don’t ask for — or make room for — tips. They pay their worker-owners well enough that they don’t have to beg.
That’s what tipping culture is. It’s putting the worker in the position of begging from the customer instead of being assured a fair wage by the employer. And now, the management even wants to tax the receipts of this mandatory panhandling.
Now, I understand that authoritarians love this. When I was a kid, I was explicitly told that tips were necessary; otherwise the waiter might spit in your food. That is, as a child of the professional class, I was instructed that service workers must be appeased with donations to keep them from committing crimes against us.
Yeah. That’s pretty messed up.
But the worker-owned venues make it clear: the restaurant doesn’t need tips to attract capable & honest workers; they just need to give a fair deal.
Another solution is profit sharing programs. E.g. an employee gets wage+(net income/all workers hours)*hours worked or a similar but fair formula or set of formulas.
I’m curious how many of these POS (Point-of-Sale, not Piece of Shit) systems have the default settings to ask for tips. If so, I wonder how many of these places are committing wage theft by not actually paying tips out to the employees.
Given their reliability, both are accurate.
The other day I went to a pub, and the machine at checkout suggested a 10%. You mean you expect me to tip 10% to this person whose contribution to my life was literally just putting my glass to a tap, pulling on the lever, then putting the price into the machine??
How about instead you just pay the person a proper wage to do that alongside all the other non-customer facing stuff they already have to do instead of making us top-up their wages.
Tipping culture was meant to be a bonus for exceptional service, not an expectation for all bloody services!
if a business cannot pay their workers a living wage without having customers subsidize their wage with tips, then that business shouldn’t exist.
It always amazes me that that tipping is still a thing. If your business can’t survive paying a proper wage to your employees without the need for supplemental income from the customer your business isn’t meant to survive. Isn’t that the capitalism they’re always on about?
They are TRYING their best at making it a thing in other countries as well. Companies that are saying no to free money at no effort is rare.
its our duty to stop it when we see it. I don’t care how much it makes me look like a grumpy old prick, if I’m.asked or prompted for a tip in Australia they will get a No. don’t get me started on the lack of actual service post-covid where the only interaction you have with someone is when they physically bring stuff to your table
“capitalism”, hah
I did takeout at a Dominos the other day, and it took the idiot a full minute to figure out how to bring my order up on the computer. He’s tap, tap, tapping away at the computer with no idea what he’s doing. Probably high as hell. And then he’s like, “It’s going to ask you a question”, and I was actually angry that it even gave me the option. WTF! And I still felt slightly guilty for hitting “no tip”. Fuck tipping!
If anything, the fact that every business is asking for a tip makes it easier for me to feel less guilty about not tipping now.
I don’t support tipping culture.
I’m fine with tipping in the places where it’s already expected. Wait staff and delivery and such. There those people live on the tips being given. Yeah the system is shit and we should pay them appropriately from the start, but refusing to tip doesn’t fight the system; it just stiffs a worker.
I don’t like it when a bakery or ice cream stand sale terminal prompts me to leave a tip. It makes me feel awkward for hitting no, even though not tipping for ice cream has been and still is standard.
You gotta learn to get past the guilt. Just hit zero. They’re relying on your guilt to extract more money from you.
Oh I hit zero consistently for the normally non-tipped services. I just feel awkward doing it. Feeling awkward isn’t enough to get me to do so, but it is enough to make me unhappy about being asked.
Pass the awkwardness on and place yourself on the side of the employee and shame the employer:
“Oh man this is wild! Just to think that your employers has the audacity to instead of raising your salary to compensate inflation, they just passed that cost onto your customers. I would be so mad if I were you, to be forced to hope for the kindness of strangers instead of getting a liveable salary.”Eeeh. I worked front end retail for 5 years (at the same place) and I hated it when people shit talked my employer to me. It feels like the customer wants you to join in and be like, “Yeah! It sucks here!” or something. I mean, what is the appropriate response? My boss or coworker(s) could easily overhear and even if they don’t, I’m not working here because I have a lot of options. Being told how much it sucks by others doesn’t feel good because yeah, I know.
I’d always think, “if you actually think it’s bad, then don’t give them money??” before giving them some stupid customer service-y answer like, “Oh no! It’s not like that here! I like it!”
Ouch, yes, you’re right.
I still think that one should pass the shame on to the employers but I’ll amend that to not put the employee in the middle of it all.
I don’t really think it’s caused backlash in me - just the ending of feeling bad for not tipping. Do I want to tip for you handing me something? Do I want to tip for self checkout? Do I want to tip for you checking me out?
You make a normal wage and haven’t done anything outside of the norm. Why on earth do you deserve a tip?
Pretty soon there’s going to be tip options on the self checkouts.
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Is it a discount?
I say it absolutely crushed that it’s sarcasm and not some weird twilight level craziness.
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