One day I was particularly fem and someone said, quote on quote, “bro went full on trans”. 💀

  • Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    3·
    11 months ago

    Obvious transphobia aside, what would you like to be referred to? I’m probably not cool or young enough to understand what to call a femboy, “dude” and “bro” sound like fair game if you’re a male. But if nonbinary or genderqueer I have a short list of neutral pronouns. Hell, I’m trans female, dude and even bro feel gender neutral to me. But thats me personally, not everyone likes that.

    • Hole@lemm.eeOPEnglish
      2·
      11 months ago

      The main issue I have with this is, the amount of masculine terms used towards me exponentially rises the more feminine I am, which I believe is pre-emptive transphobia. I’m not trans myself, but it really bothers me. Especially since sometimes it’s followed by what I quoted in the post description. I’m fine with both good boy and good girl. I cringe so hard my soul leaves my body when I get called “daddy”. “My man” also feels weird and performative, even somewhat aggressive, idk how to explain that. I’m fine with “guy”, “bro” and “dude”, as these I see as neutral and a figure of speech.

      • Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        2·
        11 months ago

        This explanation is excellent. I see what you’re explaining, that there is a performative and basically transphobic, or phobic of your presentation rather than accepting what they’re seeing in you. Unfortunately, I just keep reading how subtle most of these social problems are. No one will say the worst thing. They’ll just treat others poorly in this totally bitchmade way, unsure about their decision to be evil.